Mix and Match. . .is it God's Way?

Many marriages never materialize because of unfounded myths about "mixed marriages". Although it is safe to say that it may be proper and acceptable to abide by one's cultural differences.

In today's thought, we examine the Word of God regarding these differences. In the book of Romans, chapter 10, Paul the Apostle outlines how we are categorized when it pertains to the acceptance in the Kingdom of God or Body of Christ.

First, and foremost it reads in verse 12, For there is no difference between the Jew and the Greek: for the same Lord over is rich unto all that call upon Him. (Very important) Although it is obvious that there are cultural differences nationality wise, God has not forbidden you to marry! He does say however, in one scripture: if eating meat offends my brother, I Corinthians 8:13. . .I will eat no flesh while the world stands. Pretty strong, wouldn't you say? Nevertheless, we as individuals should consider the courtesy of the same when we are to take the vowel of holy matrimony.

God's standard and requirement is to leave mother and father (roots) and cleave to each other to become ONE!; He doesn't say if you're yellow, black, white, green, or purple; or only if you are of the same race, creed or nationality, it's OK to marry.

It is with great sadness, this appeal of mankind has developed it's own rules and regulations when it pertains to interracial marriages. Yes, it is important to consider certain repercussions because of malices, hates, prejudices, racism, fears and etc.; but they are not the prerequisite for marriage!

Understandably so, these things create obstacles that you must face, God on the other hand classifies them as sin. This just might help you . . . .Fear not them which kill the body, but are not able to kill the soul; but rather fear Him which is able to destroy both soul and body in hell, Matthew 10:28.

You see, the message here really is: God always has the last say. . .and always keep in mind, that tradition and culture does not issue the authority for marriage, it's a God thing, accept it or not.

How we deal with life's issues is determined by our obedience and willingness to adhere to the highest authority.

God doesn't see mix or match,. . . . . He looks at the Heart!

Your day will be better now! Stay Blessed.

Save the Children

In today's segment, we are talking about the importance and impact children have in our marriages. In fact, Children play a very significant role in our Marriages. It's our gift from God and our mandate to train, build and cultivate our siblings.

The scriptures tells us: Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Proverbs :22:6. That's right, it is our responsibility to do the training!

Often marriages are disrupted because of our lack of understanding of this responsibility. The family life, if you will is a well of life, if it is cultivated correctly. Our children actually represent us. They are our products. Our marriages reflect the principles and ideals that form the character of our children. It is our responsibility passed down from God, to " save the children". After all what they see from us, is what they will eventually do because of us!

Here's the point: if we allow our marriages to grow through the instructional teaching of the Holy scriptures, and we teach our children the same, we have built a foundation, a platform if you will, for our children to walk in the same paths. Truth of the matter, we can't do that without God.

In the book of Joshua, chapter one, the Lord admonishes Joshua to be careful not to turn from the book of the law handed down through Moses. . . . .then thou shalt make thy way prosperous and then thou shalt have good success. Verse 8.That's so important. Your obedience to God's laws and instructions actually puts your marriage in right standing with God, and ultimately . . . saves the children. Wow! . . . . the benefits of Marriage God's Way!

Consider this . . . if you are willing (key word) to allow your marriage to be sustained through the instructional teaching of God's Holy Word, you have already "Saved the Children" !

Think about that.....let the Lord Bless your day, real good!

Understanding your mate!

In this segment, we will capture a most vital area in our marriage; the wheels if you will, that keep us moving forward. Understanding your mate. It may seem that we have known everything there is to know about our life partner, but it has been proven time after time the horrible results of not knowing everything there is to know about your mate. Shocking? Not in the least, it's a fact.

What are we saying here? . . . .Communication is the key. Thousands of divorces occur by reason of default due to some inconsistency or lack of communication between the two marriage partners. Knowing your mate is the bond that strengthens your relationship. Let's see what the Word of God says: I Corinthians 7:3: Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband,. . .verse 5: defraud not one another! . . .you see how important communication plays a role in your marriage. It's a must!

What we don't know can hurt us, and not only one, but both parties. Sharing your feelings and emotions about each other is a part of God's plan for our marriages. When you discuss things that may have been hidden, you are actually bringing those things to light; and when something is brought to light, it's seen clearer and reveals any flaws. Get the picture?

Even Jesus pleaded with his audiences to . . .take my yoke upon you and learn of me. . . .Matthew 11:29. Make sure we are sensitive to each other's hurts, fears, and weaknesses. We all have them and it's imperative that these areas in our relationships are addressed. Here's a clue:

When you communicate in these sensitive areas, you actually empower yourselves as a team to defeat those things. That's right, you together create a bond of one that gives you the ability to overcome any obstacle that may arise in you marriage.

Two is better than one . . .says Ecclesiastes 4:9. Your communication destroys the hidden things that could surface later in your relationship and deceive and eventually destroy your marriage. It's no joke. Take this opportunity and get to really know your mate.

And with all thy getting, get understanding. . . .Proverbs 4:7. I just know you're going to be Blessed!

When the going gets tough!

Yea though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for thou art with me . . .says the Psalms 23:4 in today's message. Marriage many times has it's dark days and if I might add, even some days that you just don't even feel married.

It's true, there are days that come when you just feel alone! That's when it really seems like the going gets tough. It's natural, and it's reality. Nevertheless, there are solutions.

Allow me to share this little secret! In the book of Psalms, chapter 25, verse 14, reads: The secret of the Lord is with them that fear him; and He will show them His covenant. In other words, sometimes there are things that will come up in our marriages that we just don't have control over. It is precisely at that time God wants us to know that He is our source! Praise God! Your abilities, your talents, education, intellect and resources sometimes are just not enough to deal with life's curves. That's when we call upon a greater power, the power of God! You see, that's why marriage God's way is so important in our relationships. You are one step ahead of the game with the Lord on your side. Listen at the scriptures: with men, this is impossible, but with God, all things are possible! ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE!

One will say, well how is this done? It's simple, it's all done by FAITH. You say that you don't have any? . . of course you do, the Bible says Faith cometh by hearing and hearing by the Word of God!, Romans 10:17; so if you've been reading these timely messages each day, . . . .you've got Faith. Amazing isn't it! Well it's just that easy.

Start using your faith (in God) to begin attacking those situations where you feel helpless. I promise you, it works. So when the going gets tough, God gets tougher.. . .put your faith to work today for your marriage, you'll be glad that you read this little segment!

Be Blessed!

It's your Thing. . .do what you want to do?

Today's message deals with dwelling together, outside of the marriage bond. Yes, that's right, I'm referring to "Shacking". Shacking, is a modern day term for two people who supposedly love one another but not enough to make the life-time commitment called marriage. It's easy, it's convenient, and has many escape clauses. But!. . . it's against God's Law.
Consider what I say, and the Lord give thee understanding in all things. . .II Timothy 2:7; says the Apostle Paul as he speaks to the church that seeks for excellence. Excellence in our relationships as in the union of marriage is what God requires.
Just living together is not enough in the eyesight of God. Marriage requires a commitment.
You wouldn't walk into a supermarket and ask to take the groceries home to try them before you paid for them would you? Well it is the same in the marriage bond. Anything short of the plan that God has set forth is called " Fornication." .That's right, it's a sin!

Think about it, if the institution of marriage through the process of ceremony, license, blood test, and etc, has been adopted just about throughout the world, and is required by law in most states in this country, there's a very likely possibility that this tradition has been passed down from somewhere. . . . . .it has, . . . the Word of God!

Although the moral fiber of today's society has been reduced to just : doing what you want to do . . ., it does not negate the fact that God has the plan designed for those who will engage in an intimate relationship, called Marriage. Matthew 19 says that this is the only time when it is necessary for a man and woman to leave their family roots to embark on the journey of Holy Matrimony.

Consider this; we involve God to take on this vowel, ( a preacher, God's man or woman) but not when we divorce, ( it takes lawyers) . . .Hmm!. . .doesn't that tell you something? Things that are of God are eternal, but things that are of this earth are just temporal.! Food for thought? . . .you better believe it!

The message: " if you're shacking, . . . .you just might want to start packing". . . . .or maybe not, remember: you really only have to answer to God!
God loves you today!