The Arrangement. . .

Today we are discussing "The Arrangement". I have called it the arrangement because it is just that. Many of our marriages today have domiciled it's self in an arrangement that is always subject to change.

Often our failures in marriage are due to this arrangement not really entering into a covenant bond like we are suppose to;(in marriages) and sadly enough, our marriage relationship can go sour.
One will ask, what's the difference, isn't a marriage an arrangement. Absolutely not!
It's a play on words just like a metaphor, but it doesn't mean the same thing. Remember, words are very important and can be binding and life changing. Think that's powerful? Well it is.
Just think of the two little words, "I Do". They lock you into a contract that it takes legal representation to undo. Think about it!

So words do matter, just like the word arrangement. Arrangements can change based on circumstances. Where covenants don't ever change, because the standards don't ever change. Example: does your love for someone change because they grow taller? Of course not. Neither does the life commitment of the marriage bond change, that is if you enter into a covenant and not an arrangement. Are you getting the point?

Marriage is a life style designed for those who will submit to a covenant between the two parties. Not by force or circumstances, but by love. Not sex, lust, convenience,pregnancies,fear,money, or anything outside of the criteria of Holy matrimony. It is a selection by choice. An inspired decision if you will, along with a heart-felt desire to forever love as one.

You see my dear friends, marriage really is for those who are not afraid of making a total commitment. Anything Short of that, I believe you should wait.
On the other hand, if an arrangement is all you are looking for, it's best not to get married. Let your conscience be your guide in your own convictions.

The great thing about life is this: God gives every individual an ability to choose what's right and what's wrong; and beside, the results always tell the real truth anyway. So take time to analyze your own actions. That way you don't have to feel like you're being judged.

Relationship covenant or arrangement; you be the judge. Place your marriages in the balances of truth. It will help you. Remember, no one is perfect, only God, but we all can benefit from error, once we acknowledge the truth.
Turn your marriage into an everlasting covenant, after all. . . it's all up to you!
Be Blessed and have prosperous day. . . .you deserve it!

The Sucess of Marriage!

In today's segment, we discover the real barometers of sucess in your marriages.

Even in today's society, most people are placed in catagories based on their material possessions. How far off the mark you are.
In marriages, it's the same. The four bedroom house, two car garage, swiming pool, and the works.
Well, the truth of the matter is this: many marriages today have all that and more and yet there is still unhappiness, no fulfillment, and most of all no love. What does that tell you?
Have we used the wrong measurements to fulfill our life's dream?
Let's look at the Holy scriptures, it might surprise you: Luke 12:15 And said unto them, Take heed, and beware of covetousness: for a man's life consisteth not in the abundance of the things which he possesseth. . . .as you can see, we have compared the wrong things to the sucess of marriage.

My dear friends, one thing is certain; real marriage cannot be mimicked, it must posess real substance. Other wise, you end up like everyone else, after the thrill is gone, you seek for something different.
As hard as it may sound, it's a fact. The sucess of your marriages depends soley on how well we adhere to God's outline for marriages. Whether you accept it or not, truth is the only thing that brings sucess; (lasting sucess that is). Just look at the results and you'll see what I mean.

How can two be joined together for 5, 10, 15 years, and sometimes longer, and then just fall out of love? There's definately something wrong with that picture.

In every aspect of life, there will be challenges. Some more difficult than others, but the endurance factor is based on the founded essence of your relationship. In other words: what was it based on? Just tradition, lust, convenience,circumstance,greed, coveteousness, or was it based on what God has established in His Holy Word. Is your marriage sucessful because you have a new car, a little money in the bank, new home? No my friends, those are all the wrong reasons.
Don't get me wrong, I believe that everyone should pursue the finest material things of life too, but it should never be a substitute for sucess in your marital relationship.

Case and point: the sucess of your marriages stems out of your convenant relationship, which is your life-time comittment that you made before God and friends, family, etc. It's when your marriage can stand up against the test and challenges of life and still produce the same passion and comittment and love from inception. Why not take retrospect of your own relationship. The answers are as clear as the heavens.
A pretty car with all the trimmings and has no battery is "Worthless". . . as a marriagge without it's real sucess. . . .think about it!

Have a wonderful day....and always remember : You are Blessed!

In God we Trust....all others pay Cash!

Just a little humor. . . Hello there my precious readers. We have now returned from the Florida coasts and back with more inspirational marriage insights just for you.

In today's segment, our title is really referring to your acts of commitment in your marriages. What I mean by that is this:
Marriage is more than just saying the words: "I do". Behind those words comes a commitment of action. A commitment of true and real love. A commitment of sacrifice and patience. The action of endurance, long suffering and faith.
One will ask: why is there suffering in a marriage? The truth of the matter is, you're not really suffering; you are actually choosing to exchange your old life (single) to your new life of marriage. (no more twain but one flesh). It is much like inviting Christ into your life: 2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new.
You see, when you have accepted Christ into your life, it is because you have invited Him, it was a choice. The same in marriage, it is a choice. . . .your choice.
God has never forced His way or will on any man or woman.

Hebrews 8:10 For this is the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel after those days, saith the Lord; I will put my laws into their mind, and write them in their hearts: and I will be to them a God, and they shall be to me a people: . . . so as you can see my dear friends, it is so important to learn the ways of the Lord for marriage so that your lives and marriages are no longer a task but a revelation; and through His mighty spirit, we then become the creations that we were intended to be. Yes, marriage is a spiritual thing. It's not a corporation nor an organization; it's a life style ordained and sanctioned by God.
In God we trust. That's your assurance that your paths will be directed. "Others pay cash. . . .well you're not really paying for it, you are revealing through your obedience of God's instructions, a union of matrimony untainted by tradition and society. You then represent an entity of "oneness" designed to testify to the world a committed fellowship. . . . it's called marriage.
Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed? . . .of course not. The price you pay is your commitment, that's real marriage.
What's the message here?. . . Trust in God and pay the price of commitment to each other. The fruits of that union will generate peace, love , long suffering, gentleness, kindness, meekness, joy, and contentment.
Who do you trust in . . . .and are you willing to commit? It's time now for you to decide. After all, it is your marriage!
So. . . .Have wonderful day and always remember: YOU ARE BLESSED!

A Marriage Moment. . . .

God Bless you my precious readers. One day left before our trip to the Floridian borders.
I just wanted to leave a short message of encouragement to the marriages.

It is God's will that you break through the barriers of tradition and soar into the environment of victory, faith, and love.

Ephesians 1:17 That the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of glory, may give unto you the spirit of wisdom and revelation in the knowledge of him:

How important it is that we lay hold on the life changing Word of God for our marriages.
There is definitely a shift in the times, as God raises up His people and puts them in their rightful place in the Kingdom; to bring salvation, deliverance, restoration, and the authority of "oneness" back into your marriages.

As I close today, I leave you with this thought: God is already in tomorrow . . . our responsibility is to get in God!. . . . .then shall your marriages spring forth once again and no power on earth will be able to quench that fire of love. Yes. . .YOU HAVE THE VICTORY. . . . AMEN

Always remember . . . . You are Blessed!

Marriage on the move. . . . .

God Bless you my dear readers!

There is exciting news coming down the pike for

"Marriage God's Way Ministry".Marriage God's Way will soon be domiciled in Philadelphia, Pa. set up as a revival center. Hallelujah!!

In addition, first of the year we will be streaming our marriage conferences on the Internet. Also, be sure to look for announcements for upcoming conferences coming to your area!
My new marriage booklets will be on sale on my website and many other exciting offers.
This week my wife and I will be in the Florida area and will return on the 22nd.
So don't be discouraged, because we are coming right back with more marital insights for Marriage God's Way.

Many of the readers have been sceptical about using the Internet for donations; so we are setting up a P.O. Box for your letters, questions, testimonies, and donations. I'm so excited that it can't come soon enough. So. . . get ready. . . get ready!
Marriage God's Way is coming your way!

Until next week, remember:
You Are Blessed!

The Conference. . . .Part II

God Bless you readers! Yesterday, we shared a portion of the transcript of the Marriage Conference. Incidentally, it will be aired on national TV this Sunday,October 14th at 3:am EST for those of you that are early birds.
Nevertheless, here is the continuation of : The Conference: Enjoy!

The Bible says:Ecclesiastes 1:9 The thing that hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done is that which shall be done: and there is no new thing under the sun. Christians are doing the opposite of what God's Word says to do. Ephesians 5:25 (Whole Chapter)
Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church is a pretty strong message!
Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.
There would be a lot less confusion if the man were allowed to be the man of the house instead of one of the children. Some wives holler at the husband more that the children. . . .and that's not right!
Husbands. . . .start helping the wife around the house, run the sweeper, wash the dishes, help wash the clothes, take your wife to diner. Take a walk in the park and hold hands like you used to. It's not always about sex, it's the simple things that really count. The Bible teaches us:Ephesians 5:22 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord. . . .meaning that the little things really make the difference.
Think on the good things as to how you fell in love.
Wives, have a nice hot meal for your husband. Help wash the car, go to a sport event with him, do some of the things that he likes. Cancel that shopping trip to the Mall and enjoy your husband for a change. Put those children to bed at a decent hour and relax with your spouse. Rekindle that flame that has burned out!
For those of you whose spouses are not saved, remember this: you chose him or her and knew all about thembefore marriage. It wasn't a problem then, and shouldn't be a problem not. Live the life in front of them. Don't refer to them as devils and remember this: 1 Corinthians 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
Take ALL of your issues to God in faith believing that He will show you the solutions!
God Bless and Keep you all and Thank You!.................AMEN!

THE CONFERENCE. . . .PART I

Hi my dear readers. Today's segment is just a transcript of the Philadelphia conference I told you about in my last blog. It covers a few of the topics we talked about.
It's rather lengthy, so I'm doing it in two parts. . . . .Enjoy! and always remember, You are Blessed!

I LOVE MY WIFE DAY CONFERENCE
PRESENTS:
MARRIAGE GOD’S WAY MINITRIES

TOPIC: LORD REVIVE US ONCE AGAIN

Psalm 85:6
Wilt thou not revive us again: that thy people may rejoice in thee?
Psalm 138:7
Though I walk in the midst of trouble, thou wilt revive me: thou shalt stretch forth thine hand against the wrath of mine enemies, and thy right hand shall save me.

We would like to take this time to thank each and every one of you for coming to the I Love My Wife day conference.
This is a very special day that should be celebrated all over the world. We know that there is Valentines Day, but it has seemed to have lost it’s meaning.
So many times we go through our every day life forgetting to tell each other that we love you. That is a very special and anointed word that can keep the enemy from attacking our marriages. We would like for each of you here to stop for a moment to reflect back on when you first met. Close your eyes, and begin to remember the night you couldn’t wait for the phone to ring or the knock on the door.
Remember the special dates of going to diner, the movies, taking a walk, or holding hands?
The more you saw each other, the more inseparable you became. One day you realized you were in love. You got married, the children came ,the bills, the hard times, the struggles and the fights.
For some separation, and others divorce. No one seemed to recognize your struggle or offer any help. Many have married for the wrong reasons. . . . . Outward appearance, good job, fine car, money, a way out of parents home, lust, good looks, and many other enticements that should not have been the real reason for marriage.
Some marriages are holding on only by a thread, in church or out. And all you need is that thread to snap and it’s all over.

Then you begin to look for other ways to fill the void you now have. Other woman, other men, a friendly relationship with a co-worker, or just seeking outside satisfaction.
The next thing that arises is the enemy speaks to your mind and tells you that you don’t have to deal with it any more.
You now sleep in separate rooms, you do not spend time with each other, and nothing is ever right that your mate does.
There is no more trust,
Statistics have shown that Church marriage have the highest rate of divorce in this country. How can you say that you Love God and you can’t even love your spouse. Then comes that statement . . . . .”you just don’t know what I’ve been through"
. . . . .to be continued!

The Common Denominator. . . .

In today's segment, the common denominator in marriages is discussed.

"The Common Denominator", what is it? Why are marriages today in so much jeopardy? Why don't couples stay together after making a commitment to each other? Why has the enthusiasm of love dwindled in marriages?

The answers to these questions are most difficult, and there can only be one answer. . . there is a missing link in our relationships.and it points directly to the "common denominator".

In mathematical terms, the common denominator is the number that allows everything to become a part of the equation. Puzzled? . . . . don't be, I was never a math whiz either, so let's try and explore this matter further in more simpler terms.

The scriptures say this: 1 John 3:20 For if our heart condemn us, God is greater than our heart, and knoweth all things. . . .so is it a matter of the heart? Did we mean what we said when we said it? Was our intention pure and true before we committed to the marriage union?

The truth of the matter is this: the common denominator in any marriage relationship is the willingness to commit and to submit to a higher authority ( God the Father) and to each other (your spouse) as outlined in the scriptures in:
Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Even though we says things with our lips, the reality is not present until the action takes place. Matthew 15:8 This people draweth nigh unto me with their mouth, and honoureth me with their lips; but their heart is far from me. As you can see in the passage above, Jesus rebuking the scribes and pharisees for their pretense type worship. You see it's one thing to say a thing, but it's another to do it. The doing is only easy and effortless when it is done with the right motive and intent. For it is the common denominator of marriage! Difficulty is only present when the intent of desire is not present. Truth and Falsehood cannot stand on the same platform! I hope you're catching on here.

The common denominator is your real motive. It identifies who you really are and determines the results of your decisions.

Sometimes, we need to take retrospect and ask ourselves these questions. How is my love or lack of, different now than from the beginning of our relationship? Am I the same person now that I was when I first married? Was I really honest with my mate? You see, when we turn the mirror of life and reality toward ourselves, we see much clearer and are able to make sounder decisions. If you say "I'm going to", but never do, the event never takes place! Get it?

The real point today is this: the common denominator is the key. It unlocks the door of reality in our marriages. The Holy scriptures gives us our blue prints, and we in turn execute the plans.

It is God's plan and His will, that our marriages be complete and fulfilled with love, joy, peace, happiness and contentment.

Let's take a look back at our commitments and examine our intents. I believe that you will find a new strength and enthusiasm to start a new day for your marriages. In fact I believe God, and so should you! It is the common denominator that will make the difference for you. . . you'll see!

God says it. . . . .let's believe it . . . . and get the job done! Amen!

Have a sparkling day and always remember. . . . .

You are Blessed!