Tuesday, July 31, 2007

Compliments to You. . .


In today's segment, we address the simplicity of compliments. Compliments of course for your significant other, ( your wife or husband) in most cases.
Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; and likewise: Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.

In the two significant, scriptures above, notice that they both reference a responsibility of loving one another. How important that is. Not just in the sense of having love for each other, but rather showing that love in very simple ways. . . .one being: compliments!
Compliments show your companion that you are noticing them, that you are admiring them, and most important, that you recognize them as being a part of (this marriage).
Contrary to popular beliefs, compliments are ties that refuel a marriage. They create a sense of belonging and attachment. Although, females more so that males appreciate compliments, it is still always a welcome jester. Compliments have always been a sign of approval and confirmation, if you will. It is the detonator for the C-4. . . or in other words, it is the fire that ignites the explosion of love and passion for your marriage.
It is actually a joy to compliment your spouse. After all, you are a part of each other! Listen to the scriptures: Proverbs 5:18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth; Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.
You see, over and over again, the Bible encourages rejoicing, reverence, love, compassion, yes, and even compliments. These simple things, all develop your oneness, which the Bible declares emphatically, that your : "nor more twain but one" as Jesus spoke in Matthews, chapter 19, is the foundational principle for a marriage God's way!
Do you compliment your wife or husband? Have you ever looked in the mirror at yourself and admired your attire? Well, with the same enthusiasm, we should look at our mates. . . .and . . . .
just compliment them! You'll be surprised at the results!
God Bless your marriages today!

Monday, July 30, 2007

Skeletons in the closet ?


For if a man think himself to be something, when he is nothing, he deceiveth himself. . . as noted in Galatians 6:3. Why this passage of scripture one might ask. Simply because it deals with the subject matter of today's segment. "Skeletons in the closet".

Skeletons in the closet refers usually to things that we have hidden from our past and sometimes present, that we really don't want others to know about us; and sadly enough, many times we hide these things from even our mates.
As referenced in the above scripture; when we purpose to betray something that we are not, we are in reality deceiving others as well as ourselves.
In a marriage relationship, that's even worse. The basic principles of marriage dictates that we should first display trust, not deception! In our marital experiences, our ability to be "upfront" with each other is the basis of a sound and lasting relationship. Anything short of that, usually ends up in calamity, falsehood , and distrust.
As becoming one in marriage, of course it is most important to establish trust, since we no longer belong to ourselves. . . . . 1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.
As you have seen in the Holy scriptures, the husband as well as the wife have the responsibility of possession. . . . meaning there is no place for skeletons, or secrets from each other. As we are true to ourselves, we must also be true to our spouse.
Even in scripture we are compelled to display honesty:
1 Timothy 2:2 (Whole Chapter) For kings, and for all that are in authority; that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty.
Always remember this, . . . .how you begin a relationship usually dictates it's well being and will always determine it's outcome.
Get rid of those "skeletons in your closets". . . .it just may make the difference in your marriages and develop a whole new heart felt marriage relationship!
Be true to yourself and then, be true to your mate. . . your marriage depends on it!
Now you are Blessed!



Sunday, July 29, 2007

For Richer or for Poor. . . .til death !


Sound familiar? Well in today's segment, that's exactly what we are going to address: " for richer or for poor".
Typically in many marriages today, we don't usually have a problem with the "rich" part of our wedding vows; it's the "poor" part of it. The vow, although in it's context refers to finances, it is also symbolic to the unconditional commitment the husbands and wives make to each other in their wedding ceremonial vows. The scriptures refers to this unconditional act as cleaving.

The Holy scriptures refers to cleaving throughout the Bible. Here is just one of them: . . Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Notice the word "cleave" in the Holy scriptures as it pertains to your relationship with God. . . .
Joshua 22:5 But take diligent heed to do the commandment and the law, which Moses the servant of the LORD charged you, to love the LORD your God, and to walk in all his ways, and to keep his commandments, and to cleave unto him, and to serve him with all your heart and with all your soul. As you can see, cleaving represents the unconditional commitment in your relationship with God as well as in marriage.
The marriage institution is a set of foundational principles, passed down by God, based on the commitment and our willingness to abide by them by choice. Your choice says: I will. . . . .and your commitment says: "for richer or for poor, til death". Did you get that?
No matter what the situation or the circumstance that may arise in your marriage relationship, your commitment to each other as husband and wife, declares to the world, (both God and man) that you will stand the test of life together!. . . and to put this commitment in an even more perspective, I refer to Paul in his writing to the church at Rome:
Romans 8:35 Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?
Romans 8:39 ) Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord.
This is with question, the same commitment we have made in our marriages, believe it or not; so what's the message here?. . . . Marriage does not work without these commitments!
Your commitment (for rich or for poor) is the key element in your marriage that becomes the foundation and the vehicle for the enrichment of your relationship.
Take retrospect of your commitment in your marriage, it'll tell the true story. . . .after all God has already seen.
Be thou Blessed among all !

Friday, July 27, 2007

Damaged Goods !


In today's segment, we discuss a subject matter of a very important nature; "damaged goods".
What exactly is damaged goods, one might ask. Well, in the normal context of that phase, it is a product that just does not function properly; and in most cases, it is returned and replaced with another of the same product.
However, in a marital relationship, the same set of circumstances may exist (damaged goods: that person who is wounded in heart and spirit), but the unfortunate thing in marriage situations, we just can't return a person in for another. That's just not practical. In many such cases however, we are not able to give of ones self to the other completely, and not allowing that oneness to flourish in our marriages as it should, in other words, not able to function properly or as we should.
And in marriage, returning that other person in for a replacement, is just not reality, although many seem to try and do just that in today's society; so let's talk about the damaged goods in a marital relationship.
Many times we encounter situations and experiences in our lives where one of the two or both have been involved in an unpleasant relationship; either through infidelity, unfaithfulness, abuse, deception, heartbreak, desertion, and etc; you have then become "damaged goods".
The unfortunate thing however, is that we sometimes bring these hurts along with us into our marital relationships, causing an inconsistency in our ability to trust! (very important). Damaged goods prevent us from opening up to the other simply for the fear of opening old wounds. Suspicion is always in the forefront, and the intimacy is most likely conditional. It is almost literally impossible to build a marriage relationship with damaged goods. Let's face it, it's pretty hard to establish a good sound, heart felt relationship or even anticipate a new one if you have been (raked through the coals already), and even the Lord understands that! But I have some good news for you!
My dear readers, be of good cheer!. . . . God always has a solution for damaged goods. It's called "healing". Let's take a look at the scriptures and hear the instruction of the Lord and see what results it brings:
Exodus 15:26 And said, If thou wilt diligently hearken to the voice of the LORD thy God, and wilt do that which is right in his sight, and wilt give ear to his commandments, and keep all his statutes, I will put none of these diseases upon thee, which I have brought upon the Egyptians: for I am the LORD that healeth thee. You see, just as God was able to deliver His people out of the slavery, and the pestilence conditions (key word) of Egypt after so many years, He promised them healing as well as deliverance. Do you see that?
Damaged goods is a condition of the heart and mind; but God has promised a healing for you. . . .under the conditions of adhering to His word. How excellent is He. . .how faithful is He that has promised. Hallelujah!
Without question, my dear friends, there is healing for "damaged goods". Won't you allow the Lord today to change your damaged condition of hurt, disappointment, and dismay in your marriage? It's never too late. You see, the process starts with YOU. . . .trusting God. It is His creative power and love that desires to make you "brand new". Are you Damaged goods? Just in case you thought that you were at the end, and that there is no more hope, take these words and write them down and carry them with you:
Revelation 1:8 I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the ending, saith the Lord, which is, and which was, and which is to come, the Almighty. Revelation 21:6 And he said unto me, It is done. I am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end. I will give unto him that is athirst of the fountain of the water of life freely.
It changed my life and marriage, it'll do the same for you!
How wonderfully Blessed you are!

One and One Equals Two Equals One . . .


Well I guess you're convinced that I didn't do so well in math at school. (smiles); but actually I did, it's just God's math that doesn't seem to add up!
As in today's segment, we discuss the miraculous results of 1 + 1 = 2 that really = 1. Sound crazy, it's not; it's just God's way of identifying marriage. I believe the Word of God explains it best.
1 Corinthians 1:27 But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty. You see, the mysteries of God are actually manifested in the simple things that don't make sense to the natural intellect of man. In fact:
1 Corinthians 2:14 But the natural man receiveth not the things of the Spirit of God: for they are foolishness unto him: neither can he know them, because they are spiritually discerned.
Now here comes the revelation; so marriage is actually a spiritual thing; and since natural mankind doesn't see it as spiritual, they abuse it; you know, marry for the wrong reasons, abuse on another, cheat on one another, divorce and remarry just to do it all over again.
Pretty strong eh? Well that's how God sees us not recognizing Him through and in the bond of marriage.
Please my dear readers, don't be confused, God has set in this world, the order of marriage, "no more twain but one" as described in the book of Matthew to demonstrate to mankind, not to rationalize that His math doesn't make sense, but to prove that through the act of obedience to His Word would bring forth the miraculous transformation of the life of two joining to become one! Praise God! Don't you get it . . . your anointing is birthed out of your obedience; your prosperity is birthed out of your obedience, the welfare of your marriage is birthed out of your obedience, even your deliverance comes from your obedience; and your healing as well, which is all ordained by God. Isaiah 1:19 If ye be willing and obedient, ye shall eat the good of the land. That's the real message today!
Now do you understand? Two operating as one. That's why 1+1= 2 = 1. That my friends is the institution of marriage God's way. Everything else falls in place.
Use God's math today. Your marriage will never be the same!
Don't forget, you are going to really be Blessed!

Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Charity Never Fails. . .


In the segment today, we are talking about a subject that is the main ingredient and the foundation of your marital relationship. That subject is called "LOVE". The Bible calls it charity!

1 Corinthians 13
1Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
2And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
3And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
4Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.

Why so much scripture, one might say. . . . .simply because it is the instructional manual and principle guide for marriages. It is so important that we understand the guidelines that God has established for marriages. Love being the first. Matthew 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder. You see my dear readers, if God joins any man and woman together; they are joined because of love. The secrets of a man's heart is only revealed in the Spirit; and God sees the heart. Our ability to submit ourselves to each is only possible through love. It is our foundation for marriage. It is God's mandate for marriage. For God so loved, until He gave. . . .as we become more like Him, (Christ in us, the hope of Glory), we are able to give, first to each other, then that love is shed abroad.

What's the real message here? God's love for mankind is demonstrated in the bond of Holy Matrimony, that's right, God uses marriages as an example to humanity of His desire to reunite with us. That's how much He loves us, and He desires that we do the same to each other.
It's so important to love! Love even covers a multitude of sin. Love your mate today, it's the best thing that could ever happen to your marriage!
Be Blessed!



Tuesday, July 24, 2007

Nag. . .Nag. . .Nag . .


Well, I'm sure into today's segment you've heard this expression many times. That's right, I am referring to "the nagger". Be it male or female, nagging is sometimes very common in marriage households today.
Let's see what the word of God has to say about that: Proverbs 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.
Even though nagging is common among women, their are cases of male naggers as well. The point here however is, that nagging is a form of a complaint that rarely ever resolves or affects a solution to a situation. In fact, it detrimental to your marriage, and has a reverse affect on your "oneness".

Psalm 133:1 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity. . . .Yes, UNITY. . . .it is the common ground for marriages. It is the oneness that God ordains in your marriage relationship. Although oneness still doesn't mean sameness, the ability to conquer problems, complaints, and issues that develop in your relationship, and to persevere through it, is the oneness and the unity necessary for your relationship to survive. Two horses, pulling one cart; if they each pull in a different direction, what will the outcome be?
If two individuals in a marriage vying for the same position, what will the end result be; that's called conflict. No progress will ever be accomplished. One nagging, the other angry because of the nagging, brings about discord. Did you know that sowing discord is one of the things that the Lord hates? Proverbs 6:16: These six things doth the LORD hate: yea, seven are an abomination unto him:
17A proud look, a lying tongue, and hands that shed innocent blood,
18An heart that deviseth wicked imaginations, feet that be swift in running to mischief,
19A false witness that speaketh lies, and he that soweth discord among brethren.
Wow . . . .image, if just in general despises those things in an individual, what about your marriages, that thing that God has ordained.
The message: Don't nag, come together, try to reason among one another. It's better, it's safer, and most of all, it's God's way.
Be thou Blessed today!

Monday, July 23, 2007

Let's Do Lunch. . .


In today's segment, I have introduced a very cordial phrase, "let's do lunch". It is sort of an invitation for friends to get together while having a bite to eat. Of course you're wondering how this relates to marriage! Well, here's how.

Are you really friends with your mate? Do you really know your mate? Have you taken the time outside of your intimacy to really get to know who you are married to?

In Luke 14:28 For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it?
In recent polls about marriage divorces, most counselors are amazed at the percentages of couples that knew very little about each other. Now that's astonishing to me.
Are we living in a society so blindly that we no longer consider the basic fundamentals of a marriage relationship? Nevertheless, it is vital to our marriage to sit down, take the time to get to really know your mate. It's like the above scripture says: it's like counting up the cost!

Knowing the individual that you are in hopes of spending the rest of your life with, certainly is worth taking time out for; don't you think?
It is in this fast pace society that we live in, that even dictates the way we deal with marriages. Well, sorry to disappoint you, but it's not God's Way! Even Christ, in the Holy scriptures says at least: Matthew 11:29 Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls.
You see, problems are not resolved in our marriages simply the two are not compatible, they are not resolved because the two never took the time to: if you will, " do lunch"!

Knowing you mate is the number one prerequisite for a successful and long-lasting marriage; so before you unjustifiably determine that your marriage isn't going to work, go to your spouse and say: " let's do lunch". . . . and if you really love each other, it'll make a world of difference!
Today I'm thanking God, that you are Blessed!

Saturday, July 21, 2007

Guess who's coming to dinner. . . .?


You may possibly think that today's segment refers to an ethnic preference, well, it doesn't; nor does it have any connection to the movie, (smiles). It does however deal with the kinds of company you keep, especially those you invite into your dwelling.

In the natural, it could cause havoc in your household, but in the spiritual, it could literally devastate and eventually destroy your marriage. (very important)

The scriptures forewarns us, (the saints and especially marriages) in a modest text:
2 Corinthians 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? Of course in this particular passage, it refers to a believer who anticipates matrimony with an unbeliever. However, in principle, it also refers to the company you keep or in layman terms, the people you associate yourself with, and I might add; those you expose your marriage to!
Keep in mind, that even in the secular world, we try to avoid "bad company", and it is also the same in the spiritual realm as well, accept, in the spiritual world we deal with principalities. . . .why don't I just let the Holy scriptures explain. . . . .Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.
Now for those of you who are believers of Christ and the Word of God, I'm sure that you will understand what I'm saying here, however, those of you who are not believers, allow me to clarify: Unfortunately, there are more forces in the earth other than the forces of mankind, and most of them are unseen forces. Please do not mistake these forces for some mystical superstition, believe me, they're not. They are indeed real. Of course, God's power is greater than any force on earth and above! (The key is to stay clear of the evil forces.)
How?. . . . . I'm glad you asked!!! The only antidote . .naturally is: The Word of God!
Now I'm sure you're wondering why so cautious regarding this subject.. . . . because your marriage is at stake!
So here's the point. . . . .it's so important and vital who you associate yourself with, until it actually could determine the success or failure of your marriage. . . . .so don't guess who's coming to dinner. . . . .make sure you know who's coming to dinner! I hope you get my drift!
You just can't help but be Blessed!

Wednesday, July 18, 2007

No Sex. . .then you're too busy. . .


As provocative as that may seem, today's segment talks about that very thing, Sex.
Sex is a very vital part of your marriage relationship, and believe or not, without it, something is going to falter.

The Holy scriptures even in detail describes some of the attitudes and acts that we as married people should engage. Proverbs 5:18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. That's right enjoy an intimate relation with each other. Here's some more Bible: Proverbs 5:19 . 19: Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. Pretty interesting eh?

Yes, my dear readers, it's all there, right in the Holy scriptures. Sex is a necessary part of your marriage. It is however unfortunate that we in today's society have exploited sex so until it appears to be immoral. Well, it's not, in fact, it's a beautiful thing.
When you allow yourselves to be preoccupied with the chores of life and do not take time out for that intimacy with your spouse, you deprive and defraud them. Yes you do, and that's unacceptable in the site of God! If you remember in a previous segment:

1 Corinthians 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency. . . and by not taking time out for it, the desire for sex remains, it is just re-directed somewhere else. (make sure you understand that).
As I close today, let the scriptures remind you: Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; Ephesians 5:28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loveth his wife loveth himself.
Colossians 3:18 Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.
The message today. . . . .have sex today. . . . and your marriage will stay!
Today we all are Blessed!

Talk to the Hand. . . .


"Talk to the Hand" seems to be a very common phrase in many marriages today. That's why in today's segment we confront those communication issues.

Far too many marriages begin to dwindle before they get started good; all because of one little word called: Communication!
Communication is without controversy, the life-blood or the heart beat of a marriage. It's so important, that without it, there can be no marriage. The ability to develop a dialogue with your mate seals the bond of matrimony and allows absolutely nothing to come between the couple nor will it allow any interference. It is the universal language of Love, Marriage, and relationship.
Colossians 3:19 Husbands, love your wives, and be not bitter against them. You see, God made us all, both male and female, to be attracted to each other, not just by physical attraction, but through the communication process; we find the things that we have in common as well as the things we do not. Communication is that bridge that makes "no more twain, but one". . .Matthew 19:5.
When you fail to communicate, you lock out your mate's ability of expression, which then triggers an emotional breach, which then opens another door to the mind. . . . .then comes the enemy to rob you of that intimate relationship: subsequently, it's no more a relationship, it's "Talk to the Hand". Do you get my point?
Thousands upon thousands of divorces could have been prevented if there had been just the effort of communication! Kind of sad isn't it. I beg you my dear married friends, don't be so hardened in your heart until you allow your feelings to dry up. Everybody needs someone!.....and everyone responds to love!,. . .so, no need to pretend, it's how God made us.
In my conclusion, I admonish you today, don't talk to the hand. . . . .talk to each other.
Have a wonderful day. . . that's right, you are Blessed

Tuesday, July 17, 2007

"You've Got Mail"


In today's segment, we address the element of mail, that's right mail addressed to you," the married. "

Now I'm sure you're asking yourself, what on earth could he possibly be referring to! I am referring to the Holy scriptures, Genesis to Revelation. Yes, from the beginning to the very end, these Holy words address all of the issues of life, including your marriages.
Some may say that I'm getting real religious or perhaps even fanatical. Well I'm not. It's only because it is part of my ministry to declare to the married audience, the importance of following God's way as it relates to marriages, and if you follow it, it will bring health, happiness, and contentment and will solidify the enrichment of your marriage.
Yes my friends mail is what the Lord has sent to us through His Holy scriptures. Whether you read it, or disgard it, it's still your mail. You see, the Word of God is designed to challenge our lives and marriages, I might add. It is our roadmap and guide for our happiness and sucess. Of course, a very essential scripture: Matthew 4:4 But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God. (I can't begin to tell you how important that is.)
It's not enough just to try to live good and moral. YOU NEED A GOD ON YOUR SIDE AND ESPECIALLY IN YOUR MARRIAGE.
Yes, you've got Mail from God, who makes this appeal: John 14:6 (Whole Chapter) Jesus saith unto him, I am the way, the truth, and the life: no man cometh unto the Father, but by me.
My dear friends: You've got Mail, Read it, It will change your lives and your marriages Forever!

I'm so glad that you're Blessed!

Take Time to be Married


Today in our segment we deal with our marital habitat. It is commonly known as our everyday life of a marriage, however, there are certain aspects that we should allow ourselves to examine more closely. Let's take a closer look.
Interestingly enough, we fill our schedules with what we call our routine. Getting up, going to work, shopping, washing the car, going to the bank, and on and on. These routines are piled into our everyday life; So much so, until by the end of the day there is nothing left of our time to " be married"
I'm sure you're saying, what does he mean by that! Well, if the truth be told, we really and rarely ever take the time out of our schedules, just to be married. Still confused? Let's look at the Holy scriptures for a minute: 1 Corinthians 7:3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. What does it mean, simply this: taking the time from each other's schedules just to be together. The word in this scenario is called: Fellowship!
Did you know that the same thing that it takes to begin a married life, is the same things necessary to maintain it. That's right, the same swoosing, love, affection, sharing, and intimacy should be a part of our schedule. Now that's called: Communication!
So many times in our marriages, we take for granted the little things that in reality are the big things, yes the Foundational things, if you will, that are the main ingredient of our relationship. Don't fool yourselves, it's necessary, and it's your responsibility to make sure your marriage is fertilized with these things.
Here is what God says to you, the married: 1 Corinthians 7:5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency (a sex drive), you see, without that fellowship and communication, you could loose the common interest for each other. What's common interest ?. . . .becoming One! It's so important my dear readers.
Why not take some time out for each other. . . .have you loved your spouse today?. . . . in other words, take time to be married. . . . .after all, it's not just for today, it's for the rest of your life.
I just know you're Blessed!

Sunday, July 15, 2007

In Your Patience, Possess Ye Your Marriage!


It is in today's segment that we address the impatience of those who wish to embark upon the journey of marriage. It is in that context that we find so many marriage relationships destroyed, simply because of a lack of Patience. Subsequently we end up in unfavorable relationships.
Often we find ourselves as members of : "the lonely hearts club" , and it is that mind set that drives us to grab the first thing out of the bullpen. Follow this scripture: Hebrews 10:36 For ye have need of patience, that, after ye have done the will of God, ye might receive the promise. Now even though the writer was referring to the promise of eternal life, this same principle applies to our search for companionship.
You see my friends, we all have hopes and dreams of our life, loves, and prosperity, but it is only accomplished through our willingness to exercise patience to see it come to past, at the right times.

If you noticed in that previous scripture, it outlines a process. . . . ." after ye have done the will of God,". You see, many of us haven't even prepared ourselves for marriage. Yet, we want an instant "match made in heaven". Well, unfortunately, life isn't that simple.
Many times we are unable to find the right mate because of the venues we associate ourselves with. Let me make that a little clearer. If you needed to buy eggs and milk, would you go the Home Depot? Do you see my point.?
There are preparations necessary for both men and women before taking on the life longer journey of marriage. The scriptures tell us in the book of Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Now listen to what this next scripture implies: Ephesians 5:33 Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. Are you getting it. . . . .these concepts or mind sets are part of the preparations necessary for taking on this new life style called marriage; and without patience, you'll make the wrong choice every time.
What's the message today?. . . . Sometimes it's best just to WAIT! Don't be in a hurry. Just as God has a plan for your life, He also has a mate for you. It's not philosophy, it's a fact! The question now is . . . . are you willing to wait. Luke 21:19 In your patience possess ye your souls.
Please remember. . . . you are Blessed!

Saturday, July 14, 2007

Married but Single


In today's segment, we address an unusual characteristic of marriage, and a very popular one at the same time.
It's called "married but single". Of course that sounds like an oxy moron, nevertheless, it exist in many marriages today.
Married but single is actually a real marriage, but only on paper. It is an arrangement by consent and agreement where the two individuals live their lives separately, while yet dwelling together.
For example, the woman has her night out with the girls and likewise the man with the fellows; and vacations are usually practiced in like manner. In other words, the man does what he wants to, as well as the woman. Occasionally they may go out together and perhaps dinner or a movie, and even have time for an intimate moment.
There are also separate bank accounts and mostly very different life goals that are generally centered around that one individual and them both; and always guaranteed schedules not to conflict. Now however you look at it, these are actual real life style marriage lifestyles of today, but unfortunately, still only on paper!
I guess you're saying to yourself now that you think I am judging this type of relationship and emphatically declaring that it's wrong. Well. . . .you're mistaken. . . In fact, I do not possess the authority to pass judgement on these kinds of relationships and their choices of life styles. I have merely brought to light a marriage arrangement that is contradictory in it's presentation as opposed to what God has written through His Holy word regarding marriage. You see my dear readers, in every case, I always let God be the judge.
What I will say however, is that the Lord has given to every man/woman one of the most valuable gifts of life, (the power of choice), and how we use it will determine our life's destiny. Ecclesiastes 11:9 reads: Rejoice, O young man, in thy youth; and let thy heart cheer thee in the days of thy youth, and walk in the ways of thine heart, and in the sight of thine eyes: but know thou, that for all these things God will bring thee into judgment.
So, as you can see, there is no need for judgement,. God has one coming already. Besides, He has already judged through His Holy Word and has given each of us a choice (the right way , the wrong way, or God's way). . . .the choice is still yours!

Just what am I saying here today? Marriage is what you make it, and the choice of how you conduct it is all within your power. Remember this: The choices you make will dictate the consequences you face!
Ask yourself, am I married but single,. . . . well if so, then you've really never been married! . . Hmm!
Just a little food for thought!
Remember to stay Blessed!


Thursday, July 12, 2007

Use it or Loose it. . .it's really never too late!


Today's segment deals with time! Yes, timing is everything. You see my friends God deals in time too; but it's not the time that we measure. It is a right time, it is an appointed time, it is an in season time, a purposed time, and if you will, an ordained time.
In the book of Ecclesiastes 3:1 , it reads: To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven. Yes, and even a time to marry. It's never too late! It's just that we do not recognize these times, and quite frankly, it is at times very difficult.
Although this segment is really about the timing of God, I by permission, would like to add this: Many marriages have broken their bonds and some have almost come to that same breaking point. If I may encourage you today to hold on to what you have believed at first, (your love, your dreams, and that unconditional commitment), it just might be now,yes even now, the right time!. . .time to rebuild your marriage.
We encounter many experiences in life and all not so pleasant, and many of them very hard to bear, nevertheless, these experiences are actually lessons of strength, endurance, and perseverance, to teach us to appreciate the value of our relationships. . . .our marriages. Timing plays an important role in this whole cycle. It all revolves around the foundation that we started on. If the foundation is strong, and the structure is faulty, it can be torn down and rebuilt. otherwise the entire project must be eliminated. Do you get it? It's so important that you understand this principle. It's never ever too late to rebuild your marriage. In fact, it is a way of God. It's called: reconciliation.
Remember, Christ forgave us for all the stupid things, including sinful things we have committed and have tossed them into a sea of forgetfulness, to be remembered no more. (that's important for you to know)
You're gonna shout on this one: 1 John 2:12 I write unto you, little children, because your sins are forgiven you for his name's sake. When your heart begins to change, that's God's timing. Praise God!
Now here's the thought: Forget about what friends, family, co-workers, outsiders, and anyone else who tries to give you advise regarding YOUR situation in your marriage! Follow your heart, not your head, not your feelings, (because sometimes your feelings get hurt and that makes it difficult to get over), and certainly not what the majority is doing. It's your marriage. . . . .USE IT, OR LOOSE IT!
I just know that you are Blessed!

Wednesday, July 11, 2007

Stepping up to the Plate . .


I am saddened by today's subject, as I begin this segment. Stepping up to the plate is primarily directed to the men and women who fail to take the responsibility for marriage.

Why are there so many almost marriages. Man living on one side of town, and the woman baring the responsibility of the children alone. Even if the man is (a least), sending money, it's not enough. Children need a father; and besides, there is a responsibility that comes with " making babies".
There are however, cases where these roles are reversed, but there are very few, so primarily, I am talking to the men! That's right, Men. . . .why aren't we stepping up to the plate?
Our responsibility in this life is to be "the head", like it or not! Here the Holy scriptures: 1 Corinthians 11:3 But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.
No matter how you look at it, God has an order, and God has already done His part; so who do you think is next? Genesis 1:28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth.
As you can clearly see, God has even given you (man) dominion over everything. Could it be that we are just not aware of our rights?; or are we so out of touch with God that we now don't really know who we are, and unable to step up to the plate? . . .and believe or not, the same crisis exist in the church! How shameful!
The real facts are staring us in the face; not only in marriages, but in our own personal lives. . .we need a reality check from God! The Bible says: Matthew 4:4 But he answered and said, It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but by every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God.
Yes . . . .Men. . . .we're not going to step up to the plate in marriage or anything else in life until we allow the Lord to come into our lives and teach us.
Please my dear brothers and fellow men, don't be angry at the one who delivers the letter, but rather be angry at the one who wrote the letter. . .if you know what I mean! Come on Men, give these women a break. . . .take your rightful position in life and in the church, Step up to the Plate!. . .you can do it!
I just know that you are going to be Blessed!

Tuesday, July 10, 2007

Why buy the cow, when the milk is FREE. . .


As I begin today's segment. please allow me to clarify: I am certainly not calling a woman a cow. It is just an expression that I'm sure you've heard in times past.
"Why buy the cow" refers usually to the man or woman that wants an intimate relationship without the marital commitment. The " free milk" as well refers to the passionate companionship with sex, which incidentally is known by another name called fornication.
Although in some cases of sexual relations prior to a marriage, it is acceptable, as long as they intend to marry. Surprised? . . . .don't be: I Corinthians: 7:35, And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. But if any man think that he behaves himself uncommonly toward his virgin, if she is passed the flower of her age, and need so require, let him do what he will, he sins not: let them marry. (didn't know that did you?)
As you can see, even the Lord knows that we are human and have passions that will always need to be addressed. Nevertheless, it is still not permission to have free wild uncontrollable sex; now that my friends is called concupiscence.
Every act and aspect of your life will fall under a guideline out of the Word of God, be it good or evil.
When you participate in these sexual acts outside of the bond of marriage, you are violating God's law. That's right, whether it matters to you or not, you are sinning.
Love will mandate marriage and commitment; on the other hand, Lust will require only satisfaction for the moment. You need to know the difference. Love is the Ecstasy of your emotion and heart, where Lust is just the satisfying of the thrill and then you're done. Love is liberating where Lust is bondage just as many many relationships are caught up in a lust-fest., without Love and certainly not commitment. Therefore, no need for marriage. If you love, you will want to buy into the marriage experience. If not, . . . . well let's just let God be the final judge!
Allow me to close with this: Hebrews 13:4: Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge, says the Word of God!
You didn't really think the milk was free, did you? (smiles) Come on, get married, besides, it's good, it's right, and it's God's way!
Once again, you are Blessed!

Monday, July 9, 2007

The Dis-functional Marriage


In today's message, a very common and most misleading subject, " the dis-functional marriage" Of course one will ask, why do I call it dis-functional, or perhaps, what exactly is a dis-funcitonal marriage. Well I hope you're ready for this one.

The dis-functional marriage is a relationship which operates within the marriage bond. It looks like, acts like, and usually displays all of the traits of marriage, except for it's "hidden dis-function". Did you get that? You see the dis-function is really hidden to the outside world, and the only way to tell is by it's ending result. . . Separation and/or Divorce. Make no mistake, marriage is a holy joining and is an ordained act of God, however, if the rules and instructions by God are not followed, you place yourself as well as your spouse in another category. To go on in disobedience causes dis-function.
Listen to the scriptures: II Peter 2: 12-15: 12But these, as natural brute beasts, made to be taken and destroyed, speak evil of the things that they understand not; and shall utterly perish in their own corruption; 13And shall receive the reward of unrighteousness, as they that count it pleasure to riot in the day time. Spots they are and blemishes, sporting themselves with their own deceivings while they feast with you; 14Having eyes full of adultery, and that cannot cease from sin; beguiling unstable souls: an heart they have exercised with covetous practices; cursed children:
15Which have forsaken the right way, and are gone astray, following the way of Balaam the son of Bosor, who loved the wages of unrighteousness;(
now you see why marriage is holy)
Wow. . . .that's pretty strong to the person or people in a marriage who just refuse to accept the instruction of God's way of marriage. Nevertheless, thousands of people do it everyday, even though it still doesn't make it right!
Everything changes when you make up in your mind that answers as well as the healing for your marriage can only come from above. Don't ever forget this: . . . .there is someone greater than you, and has all power in heaven and in the earth. Matthews 6:26: Behold the fowls of the air: for they sow not, neither do they reap, nor gather into barns; yet your heavenly Father feedeth them. Are ye not much better than they? God can and will take care of your marriages. Your job is to let Him!
Why settle for a dis-functional marriage, it's not healthy nor joyful and certainly not fulfilling. You've got the message.. . .Marriage God's Way or Dis-function! . . . .It's always your choice!
You can't help but be Blessed!

Sunday, July 8, 2007

Wilt Thou Be Made Whole?


In today's segment, we explore the choice of possibilities. What I mean by that is simply this. Your possibilities actually outweigh your realities in your marriages. That's right, what your marriages could be is actually all up to you.
It's by choice and not by circumstances as we are sometimes led to believe.
If you remember the scripture, a few blogs ago: Philippians 3:13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before. . .so if you are able to change your mind set about your marriages, your marriages can change it's possibility. (that's key)
Far too many relationships in marriages just throw in the towel because of situations, circumstances, money, and many other things that they would be able to control, if they only knew that they could change it, understand? Don't you know that God wants you to be in control of every area of your life? The problem lays with us. That's right, with us! We fail to take the initiative and the belief and trust in God's word to take the bull by the horn, if you will, and effect change.Listen to the Word of God: Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
Could it be that the (through Christ) part of this is preventing you from taking control of your marriages? Let's face it, your possibilities are all through Christ. . . . .and your reality is where you are right now! Nevertheless, you still have an opportunity to change all that. Yes sir-ree buddy, you can turn your marriage into a "match made in heaven", you can turn your "rags into riches", you can turn you midnight into day, ALL THROUGH CHRIST, who will strengthen you. Amen!
What's the message here? You don't have to accept meritocracy in your marriage, you don't have to permit poverty in your marriage, you don't have to be lonely in your marriage. . . . .so get ready! Only what you are willing to accept for your marriages will affect your marriages. What am I saying? You have the power to change everything. How?. . . I'm so glad you asked.
The change must first be in YOU! Remember this: Proverbs 23:7 For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he:
The way you think will determine how you respond to life. Now the question is: Will thou be made whole?
Yes, you're Blessed!

Thursday, July 5, 2007

It's so nice. . .to say Goodbye. . .to Yesterday!


For the last twenty some odd segments, we have pounded the subjects of trying to work out your differences in marriage. However, today's topic is about saying "Goodbye". (to bad marriages of course).

There are certain realities in life that forces one to make decisions of permanent separation. It is unfortunate, but in some cases imperative. Of course I am referring to saying Goodbye to that relationship that has not, will not, and has never worked from day one!
We often pride ourselves in the decisions we make and many times it is difficult to admit, "I really made a mistake" Well just as life itself, we are going to make some bad decisions, and yes I'm talking about marriages that just aren't meant to be. I am sure you're thinking, so how do we know, or what is the sign that tells us that we have chosen the wrong mate? It might seem very complex and even complicated, but it's not. Well, I'll let you be the judge. . . . . .if you were in a dark room, and needed light to see, then turned on a flashlight that did not work. What would you do? I'm sure your first thought would be to replace the batteries. Now, with brand new batteries you find that the flashlight still doesn't work, but you still need light. What do you do now?
You see, many times we don't like admitting to ourselves that this (I'll say flashlight but you say marriage) thing isn't going to work, until we finally realize how nice it is to say Goodbye, to the yesterday of pain , sorrow, suffering, and a really messed up, mixed up, so called marriage. It's just reality!
Even in scripture, when Paul the Apostle was encouraging the new born believers to continue, he says: Philippians 3:13 Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before.
I don't have to list all of the signs that tell you that this marriage is not working, I'm sure you are able to do that for yourself. What I will tell you however, is that God's will for your life is to be happy and fulfilled in every aspect, including your marriages.

Of course now the question is am I promoting divorce. . .Heavens no . . . what I am promoting rather, is a marriage that God is please with and of course you, not a mixed match, incompatible, unbearable relationship that you can barely tolerate. Proverbs 21:9 It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman (or man) in a wide house. In these cases, you need to say Goodbye! Marriage is a way of life that God has designed for two parties, man and woman to be joined together as one. Marriage is not a prison, it's not abusive, it's not an unhappy experience, and should never be a circumstantial alternative.; so let's clear the air. Put your marriage in the balances of God's way and your reality, and you just might find out that "it's really really nice to say goodbye to yesterday."
Now let a new day spring forth in your life and stay that way! You're not sinning, you're just beginning!
You are Blessed by the Best!




A Walk with God in Marriage



The segment today teaches us about walking with God through our journey in marriage.

Many people however, never relate God and Marriage outside of the normal ceremony that involves a preacher, priest, rabbi, or etc.; but the truth of the matter is marriage really is all about God!I’m sure there are some eyebrows raised with that statement!
Trust me, it’s really true. The whole concept of marriage comes from God.

Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. Repeatedly, the Bible refers to the God and the church relating it to a marriage: Ephesians 5:25 Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it. All because God intended for your marriages to be Holy, sanctified, pure, through prayer.

Even in Paul’s instruction to the Corinthian church referencing the unequally yoked. (meaning, one may believe and the other does not) 1 Corinthians 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband: else were your children unclean; but now are they holy.
You see, these scriptures are all relevant to marriage. Now don’t you think after so many references, that your journey through marriage should be also a walk with God?
Meditate on this: Hebrews 1:9 Thou hast loved righteousness, and hated iniquity; therefore God, even thy God, hath anointed thee with the oil of gladness above thy fellows. What does it mean?. . . .When you walk with God in your marriages, you are given something extra, “an anointing”. . . .the ability to work through difficulties, crisis, or any such thing that would challenge your relationship., An anointing is an advantage given to you by God to be victorious in every aspect of your life and your marriages. Praise God!

I urge you today, look into the perfect law of liberty, (the Word of God) it will bless you, your children, your family, and most of all, your marriages.
Walk with God in your marriages, besides, He’s already walked with you!

I just know that you are Blessed!

Wednesday, July 4, 2007

Marriage - Insurance or Assurance



Today's message is sort of a play on words. Insurance and Assurance, are they the same, or have we confused the two. Let's find out.
Typically, how you begin a marriage is usually how you will end up in your marriage. In other words, what goes around, will definitely come back around; either to haunt you, or bless you!

Insurance in the sense of the word is usually some sort of protection plan in the event that a thing may falter. We buy insurance on our houses, cars, and possessions to protect us in case of any type of lost. Insurance is a sort of guarantees that the item or thing will be replaced, or that you will be compensated for the same.
Unfortunately, some have approached marriage in a similar fashion. Treating it as though it were some kind of commodity rather than a life style. Many times, the insurance plan that some marriages take, if you will, are seamless and/or invisible and difficult to detect. Meaning that they have set up other options, just in case, if you know what I mean.(someone on the side). It is sadly enough a reality in some marriages today.

Let's look at the other side of the coin. Assurance is really the best and only way to enter into the marriage bond. It says that each party is confident and convinced that the person they have chosen to live out their lives with, is the one! With no other reservations, this marriage is assured that their unconditional love, perseverance, and their commitment to each other will stand the test and trials of life, as they endeavor to seal their marriage vows with the act of becoming One! Wow!. . . .Now that's Assurance!

Of course the scriptures: Hebrews 13:4 Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge. A marriage honored by God is always the way to go!

Let's close with this! Which plan did you pick for your marriage, Insurance, it's a plan that works, except for the consequences and the end results; and of course, there's always Assurance which is the plan that guarantees a Marriage God's Way.. . . Now that's a catchy phrase!

Why not stay Blessed!

Monday, July 2, 2007

MARRIAGE AND RIGHTEOUSNESS


After almost 39 ½ years of marriage, four children, and thirteen grandchildren, I have found that marriage and righteousness seem to be synonymous.
In our segment today, we address the comparisons of righteousness and marriage.
Both require a great deal of commitment and both in return give satisfaction and contentment.
The scriptures tell us: 1 Timothy 6:6 But godliness with contentment is great gain.; and as well, marriage with contentment is also great gain. One might say, why is it gain? Simply because the marriages of contentment, are typically filled with much love, trust, joy, peace, happiness, gentleness, kindness, laughter, and success; much like the fruits of the Spirit.
Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, long suffering, gentleness, goodness, faith. You see, they’re almost identical in nature.
Righteousness requires perseverance, long suffering, and patience, as does a marriage that works. Righteousness needs continual prayer, as like a marriage that will withstand the challenges of life.
Righteousness is forgiving, and always willing to help. On the other hand marriage is a life of all giving, to each other. ( love, understanding, and trust). As righteousness admonishes us to “present your bodies a living sacrifice: Romans 12: 1. Likewise in marriage, we must present our bodies to one another. Listen to the scriptures: 1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. All these similarities lets us know that the Lord has fashioned the church after a marriage

The secret however, is to become ONE. Matthew 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Allow me to close with this: God has set in the earth a perfect plan for Love , Health, contentment, and most of all happiness. 3 John 1:2 Beloved, I wish above all things that thou mayest prosper and be in health, even as thy soul prospereth. Get the point?
You’re Blessed!

Married with Children. . . .the bubble !



In today's segment we highlight "The Bubble". Of course you're saying to yourself, what on earth? The bubble is a very utilized mechanism that marriages with children, of course, develop to supposedly discipline their children. By now you've already surmised that the topic today is about raising children in a marriage.

Although the bubble seems to be a safe and logical way of keeping tabs on the kids, it is also at the same time relinquishing you from your responsibility; to Raise those Children. In the book of : Proverbs 22:6 it reads: Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Now I'm sure many will agree that putting your child or children in bubbles is the best thing. How misleading that mind set is! Is that really your reason for putting the children in a Bubble?

What exactly is "the bubble". Well, first it is placing unwarranted restrictions on your children. Did you not know that the Bible says: Colossians 3:21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. Children are more receptive when they are allowed to be children. You cannot expect a child to act or even understand as an adult. Accept it or not, here is what God's word says about that: 1 Corinthians 13:11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

When you give your child any and everything they want, you corrupt that child by omitting lessons of earning and responsibility. You are depriving that child of self esteem by crippling him/her with unearned gifts. ( or is it just to keep them out of your hair) When you imprison your children with unnecessary restrictions, you have failed to teach them the consequences of choice.

Children that are placed in "the bubble" by their parents statistically tend not to succeed in life, because they have been cheated out of the real lessons of life, and usually instead they try to cheat life., and if you want it in layman's terms, they usually end up in trouble.You have heard many many children attest to this: "as soon as I am of age, I'm getting out of this house". Why do you think this kind of attitude is so forceful in children, pray tell me?. Isn't the married with children life an environment of Love, Faith, Trust, Instruction, Principle, and Growth? That's almost a perfect scenario.
What's the message here? Married with children is a responsibility as well as a mandate from God to raise your children..
Please, don't shortchange your children by substituting gifts for training. Please, Don't place undo burdens of heavy restrictions on your children thinking that it's the old fashion way. The real old fashion way is this: taking the time to interact with your children, through love, correction, instruction, discipline and finally, fellowship. All these things must work together. Remember, you were once a child, and children are ultimately a product of their parents. Think about that!

Always, you are Blessed!

Sunday, July 1, 2007

Why Divorce. . .?


Today's segment deals with an unfortunate reality, Divorce. Sorrowfully to say, divorce has been a very popular option when it involves some marriages.

There's really no right or wrong about divorce. It's just that it is a way of life sometimes we take in order to keep peace between two people. It is however, not a recommended way of life, although it is necessary in some cases where there is abuse etc.

The Bible teaches us that only because of the hardness of our hearts, were we given permission to divorce. Only cases of adultery at first.. Anything short of that is reconcilable.
Matthew 5:32 But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery. Now why do you think Jesus worded that scripture like that? . . .and Jesus goes on further to say in chapter 19: He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

You see, the institution of marriage was originally designed by God you might note, to be a one time (til death do you part) permanent experience. We (mankind) are the ones who have made it " a revolving door". The ordination of the marital union was purposed to fulfill the happiness and contentment of both parties to the extent of actually inspiring others to do the same. Genesis 9:7 And you, be ye fruitful, and multiply; bring forth abundantly in the earth, and multiply therein. Not only was mankind to have dominion over the land and fields but to also build families. Subsequently, when Adam disobeyed God, he lost dominion as well as his perspective.
We've lost our perspectives when it comes to marriages, and our solutions all seem to spell divorce. This might shock you a little. . .All marriages should be first ordained by God! One might ask, well, what is ordained? It is God's approval by nature. Meaning God has placed an unconditional love in the heart of that man and that woman to choose to be married, FOREVER! They two then become ONE! Get it?. . . . .It's God's example to mankind of the plan of Salvation. John 1:12 But as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the sons of God, even to them that believe on his name: Husband and wife become one just as man can become one with the Father. POWERFUL STUFF EH?
Let's finalize today's message: Divorce is really defeat. There are other ways! If however, your marital relationship is abusive, it was wrong from the very beginning.(bad choice) Now keep in mind, that God doesn't hold you responsible for a mistake. He holds you accountable if you don't correct it, once you've found out. ( very important )

Heavenly Father, give us the understanding we need to see what's really wrong, then grant us the ability to accept your Word that ultimately brings the solutions. . . .is my prayer for you today!

Be Blessed.!

Marriage is Honorable

Marriage is Honorable
be not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is. . .Ephesians 5:17