For by thy Words. . . . .

In the last segment we addressed the negative side of our words. We learned that what we speak could affect our lives and marriages negatively.

Today, I would like to share with you the authority of your "good words".

Even in marriage, we are able to change the course of our relationships just by our words.

James 3:6 And the tongue is a fire, a world of iniquity: so is the tongue among our members, that it defileth the whole body, and setteth on fire the course of nature; and it is set on fire of hell. James 3:8 (Whole Chapter) But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison.

So my dear readers, since we cannot tame our tongues, why not use it to enhance the course of our marriages, with good words that is!

As we encounter day to day life and interact with our spouses, our words are pivital guides that set in motion, the negative or the positive. Now remember, as we quoted in our last segment: Matthew 12:37 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned. . . . .so why not be in agreement with God's word concerning our marriages.

It is a fact that when you say what God says, you enter into an agreement with Him, thus you have entered into another realm or area of your life that makes you a benefactor of the Blessings of God. Whether you believe it or not, people who's lives stay in turmoil, and who are indecisive, unhappy, depressed, unruly, as though their lives are going around in circles and never finding fulfillment, is a result of not being in agreement with God. . . . .and that goes for the rich as well. You see, peace does not have a $$ value.

Now here are a few tips to help us realise the usefulness of our words.

Be sure to start your day with words of thanksgiving, for life and for your mate. Romans 12:10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another; (with kind words - I love you, I'll miss you, have a nice day, God Bless you, don't forget to call, are all "starter words and phrases" that actually set the course of your day. Stop saying "I can see this is going to be a bad day". . . . just because the car won't start!

It just might be that God is holding you up to prevent you from being involved in a terrible accident! , ever think of that?

Your words can make an entire day, if you use them correctly. Compliment your love one, and remind each other of the promises of God for your marriage, as written in the Holy Bible. Let good words begin to penetrate your thought patterns. Proverbs 23:7 For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: and when you think good things, you usually say them. Did you know that you can actually destroy the works of the enemy (the devil) by using good words or saying what God says? It's a fact, even when Jesus was tempted of the devil, his defense was: "the Word of God", what is written, that's right, the written word spoken becomes a reality of authority and power! Wow. . . .that's pretty powerful!

Listen to the word: husbands, love your wives, wives love your husbands. These are all good thoughts, words, and acts that creates a defense for your marriages against attacks from outside forces. That's right, and it works!

In conclusion, I'd like to share with you this scripture: Philippians 4:8 Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. . . .it will change the course of your speech. It will set off an unquenchable fire of desire between the two as one! Your marriage should be an undeniable reality to the world, and so visible that it impacts others to see a relationship of love, trust, confidence. . . . . and here's what so great about it. . . . .it all starts with "words". so. . . . . . say something nice today to your spouse and watch things begin to change.

Now I'm giving your marriages good words. . . . .Always remember, YOU ARE BLESSED!

The Universal Word of God. . . is for your Marriage!

In a world filled with so much turmoil and pretense, a universal attack on the marriages seems to be the target for old Satan! Nevertheless, in today's segment, we will explore those strategies and expose them.

We live now in a society of sophisticated vocabularies. That's right, words! Words of promise, words of authority, words of direction, words of advise. Our communication has been so high tech, until our words are now transmitted through computer micro chips otherwise known as emails and etc.

The words we speak can actually be as detrimental as they are life changing. Allow me to explain.

Mankind has always, from the beginning of time adopted the God-type attribute of using words. Here's what I mean. In the beginning: God used words!
Genesis 1:3 And God said, Let there be light: and there was light. Genesis 1:6 And God said, Let there be a firmament in the midst of the waters, and let it divide the waters from the waters.
Genesis 1:9 And God said, Let the waters under the heaven be gathered together unto one place, and let the dry land appear: and it was so.
Genesis 1:11 And God said, Let the earth bring forth grass, the herb yielding seed, and the fruit tree yielding fruit after his kind, whose seed is in itself, upon the earth: and it was so.
Genesis 1:14 And God said, Let there be lights in the firmament of the heaven to divide the day from the night; and let them be for signs, and for seasons, and for days, and years: just to mention a few; and now it's our turn.

You see, it is through the power of speech do we set the courses of our lives, and in this particular instance, our marriages. Yes. . . . . .what you speak, you become.

Even modern day psychologists teach us that positive words result in positive actions, which result in positive results in one's life.

Listen to the scriptures also:
Matthew 12:37 For by thy words thou shalt be justified, and by thy words thou shalt be condemned. Interesting isn't it? Are you getting the point? That's right, you have the power to speak into your marriage.

We don't even realize the effectiveness of our own words! We use too many negative phrases. Just listen to these phrases and you fill in the blanks!

Negative phrases such as: "you're always. . . . I can't ever get. . . .I guess I'm just not. . . . we'll never be able to. . . . .and many many more of these negative statements destroys the fiber of your relationship, as well as you as individuals. Don't you see, WHAT YOU SPEAK, YOU BECOME!. Just as our Lord spoke this world into existance, we also have that same ability (only on a much smaller level) to speak the things that are wholesome, healthy, encouraging, rewarding, and most of all, the things that are right!

Just maybe we need to re-educate ourselves and our thinking. So where do these negative things come from. Yes . . . Yes . . . . the Devil himself. He doesn't want our marriages to become strong. He wants to destroy them. John 10:10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.

Why do you think that the churches are so ineffective today? It's mostly all entertainment. No saving, no healing, no setting the captives free, no real deliverance. It's almost like a social club. Why. . . . . because the families are not strong, because the marriages are not strong either. Weak , broken down marriages,. . . . . .weak broken down church! That's a fact, like or not!

Our marriages must be healed!. . . . .and a good place to start is with our words. Changing the way we speak, even to each other as husband and wives. Remember this! You can't take back words! (whether you meant it or not)

In our next segment, we will address the positive side of our words. Yes my dear readers, words for our marriages. Good Words, words for strength, healing and restoration.

So until next time. . . .

Always remember: You are Blessed!

Freedom or Bondage. . . It's your choice !

Galatians 5:1 Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage. As you can see, today's segment deals with "freedom and bondages".

In the above scripture, Paul the apostle is actually referring to being free from your sin debt and admonishing you not to fall back into old habits. However, there also different kinds of freedoms and bondage's that we rarely talk about.

In most cases in marriages where there are no set guidelines, there are also a types of freedoms and bondage's. Let me explain: The freedoms that fall under the category of "do what you want to do and when you want to do it", where at the same time these types of freedoms also lead to a type of a bondage. Kind of like having to look over your shoulder, just to make sure that you don't get caught; or just having a war within your conscience, knowing that there is an issue in your marriage that should be addressed but you don't want the other party to know about it in fear that it may damage your marriage. Wow, that's pretty severe, wouldn't you say?

The fact of the matter is this: our marriages are in constant conflict with the outside forces of life and we have but one defense to even control it. That defense is. . . . . .you guessed it . . .The Word of God. Without question, our ability to combat those outside forces are solely dependent upon our willingness to receive the engrafted Word of God for instruction.

When we as husbands and wives determine to submit our lives and marriages to Almighty God, we then lessen out chances of being put into a bondage situations. Always remember the scriptures:
Galatians 5:9 A little leaven leaveneth the whole lump. . . .meaning simply that if you continue to overlook a problem, or don't do anything about it, it just gets bigger!

Freedom however, is the freedom of knowing that you have put all your cards on the table with each other, therefore allowing nothing to crop up at a later time to weaken the strength of your relationship. Our marriages are mirrored through God's plan of salvation. Believe it or not, the way we deal with our spouses, is exactly the same way we deal with God! (with honesty or pretense).

Probably the worse thing that could possibly happen in your life is that your sin debt is not paid, or dealt with, but since Jesus Christ has covered that part for you, you have only to deal in honesty with each other. This is where your freedom starts.

As you together seek the instruction out of the Word of God for your relationship and any issues that prevent you from having a free relationship, you free yourselves from any past guilt or condemnation that may be blogging your minds. The Word of God is in fact, help, healing, guidance, and deliverance. You see, once your spirit is free, you are free. Once you become free, your marriage begins to flow in freedom. Be sure to remember this: Freedom and bondage cannot stand on the same corner!

Joshua 1:8 This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.

Now it's time for you to make the choice: freedom or bondage. I chose the freedom, how about you! God Bless you!

This day, you are Blessed!

Dominating Spirits. . . .The Cure!

Once again we address the subject of "dominating spirits". In today's segment however, we find out how to combat it.

Scripture clearly tells us that our love should be without dissimulation; and in our previous segment we learned that dissimulation causes us to behave just the opposite of the way we normally would.

We have further determined that a dominating spirits will cause conflict in our marriages. So, how do we actually deal with this?

Well my dear readers and married couples, it's a matter of love. One might say: how will love shut that big mouth of my spouse or how will it calm that wild man and boisterous behavior of my significant other? Simply by God's unprecedented Love! Did you think I was going to suggest that you just tie them up and put them in a closet for two weeks.(smiles) , of course not. Love is the most powerful and effective resource of your marriage. Not only does it comforts, sustains, upholds, delivers, forgives, encourages, forbears, entreats, it also is the 24/7 glue that holds your relationship in balances of integrity. Without it, you have no marriage.

1 Peter 4:8 And above all things have fervent charity among yourselves: for charity shall cover the multitude of sins. (not cover up but rather compensate) That's right, it all has to do with Love. Love carries the authority of cancellation. What do I mean by that. . . .just this: Your love for one another, if it is genuine will cause haughty and aggressive natures to humble themselves to a higher authority. Even if that person has been that way for a long time. Here's an example:

Mark 5:2 (Whole Chapter) 1And they came over unto the other side of the sea, into the country of the Gadarenes.
2And when he was come out of the ship, immediately there met him out of the tombs a man with an unclean spirit,
3Who had his dwelling among the tombs; and no man could bind him, no, not with chains:
4Because that he had been often bound with fetters and chains, and the chains had been plucked asunder by him, and the fetters broken in pieces: neither could any man tame him. You see, even in our own wisdom, influence and strength, we are not able to change people. We need help with that part! Many times we oppose ourselves without even realizing it, as that same man in the scriptures. 5And always, night and day, he was in the mountains, and in the tombs, crying, and cutting himself with stones. In this case, the dominating spirit did harm to himself. Now imagine if he were loosed and that spirit exposed to others; much like what happens in our marriages, we then become victimised by that spirit.

Well it is exactly the same when we allow dominating spirits in our marriage relationships. It must be dealt with through the Love of Christ. Now Jesus simply casts that spirit out of the man with His authority of Love. Sometimes it's not really the person, it's only an unfavorable spirit that's in that person. What do you do? . . . . . you cast it out with the Love of God of course. God's Love. It is the only life transformer available!. . . . . .but it works!

We don't need dominating spirits in our marriages. We have enough to deal with in every day life challenges without an unwelcome spirit such as domination. Domination is an unclean spirit. . . . .get rid of it and it, and it will change your marriages and once again bring peace, joy, and the harmony. That's what God intended for your marriages. So try it, . . . .you're gonna love it!

Always remember: You are Blessed!

The Dominating Spirit

In today's segment, we are talking about the "dominating spirit" in marriages. Of course as you know, no one wants to feel dominated, and especially in a marriage.

Domination is a controlling force that places limits of it's own choosing on the other party. In the spiritual world, domination is a demonic force set forth to destroy an individual or an entity such as a marriage relationship.( You definitely need to remember that).

People with dominating personalities, especially when it comes to a marriage, are usually people that are very insecure about themselves and feel the need to control someone else's life. That too is a demonic spirit or force, and I might add that it is not natural.

Domination is diametrically opposed to God's plan of marriage. Accept it or not, domination destroys marriages and ultimately the individuals that is subject to it. In the scripture: Galatians 5:22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, and most of all, it's not dominating.

You see, domination does not allow marriages to fulfill it's task of "oneness". I'm sure you have met or know someone or some marriages where one or the other has that domineering or a controlling spirit.

NOTE:(To the men) Being the head doesn't give you the authority to be domineering. ; and it can be the other way around as well.(For the women) Some women too are so dominating until it is almost unbearable; and the man doesn't want to resist her, so he finds another past time away from the home just so he is not dominated by that woman! (a very important point) Scary isn't it? Nevertheless, it is a reality in many marriages today. Dominating spirits will destroy your marriage forever! Besides, that's not God's way. Listen to the scriptures: Romans 12:9 Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good.

What does it mean; simply this: anything that changes the natural state to become the opposite of what it was intended to become is dissimulation. In stead of being one entity (I am speaking regarding marriages only) you become two individuals vying for the same position, which ultimately will always bring conflict. As you all well know, conflict in the home brings about the destruction of a marriage. You know. . . . the D-word!!
Dominating spirits bring dissimulation, dissimulation breaks down the bond of oneness, and if the bond of oneness does not exist in your marriage, you are working against the principle of God's law of marriage. You then fall under the condemnation of disobedience and no longer fall under the protection plan of God. Psalm 91:1 He that dwelleth in the secret place of the most High shall abide under the shadow of the Almighty.

I'll bet that you didn't know that when you follow the principles and guidelines that God has set forth in scripture for your marriage that you"abide under the shadow of God" That's why the enemy doesn't want harmony in your marriage; and subsequently is why there are so many divorces, (the church first) and then in the world. WOW!. . . pretty powerful.

In the next segment, we will discuss how to combat this demonic force called "the dominating spirit", so be sure to look for our next insight. Until then, Have a wonderful day and remember God loves you in spite of everything!

By the way. . . . . . . . .TODAY . .I am celebrating my 60th birthday and 39th year in marriage!! HALLELUJAH!

Always be Blessed!

Spending time with the Lord. . . .

In to today's lesson, our subject is "spending time with the Lord". If you will notice the the scripture below:
Ecclesiastes 3 : 1To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: 2A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; 3A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; 4A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; 5A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing;
6A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.
As you can see, there are times and seasons for everything. Even in your marriages, there are times and seasons that should be set aside for that, and one of the most important times for your marriages is spending time with the Lord.
Spending time praying, reading the Word of God, meditating, sharing with each other. These are times that are most necessary for your marriages. You see, God desires to impart into your spirits, hearts, and minds, the necessary wisdom that keeps you and your marriage day by day.
Let's face it, sustaining your marital relationship along with everyday life is a monumental task. It's not easy either. The only way to keep your perspectives and objectives, your well-being, and soberness of thought, is to meditate upon the instruction of God's Holy Word. That alone is the sustaining power you need to keep your marriages afloat. Anything short of that is just surviving until something better comes along. (think about that, if you will)
I have never read in any of the marriage vows about just surviving. It's not there, and furthermore; it's not God's way!
It is important that you both as well as independently spend time with the Lord. It's your sanity and your guide. It is your encouragement and your peace. Out of it shall come your welfare and your peace.

1 Timothy 4:15 Meditate upon these things; give thyself wholly to them; that thy profiting may appear to all. (How important this is) The time that you spend with the Lord in His instruction reflects in your marriage. Everything comes to the surface eventually anyway; and is clearly seen by others.

Joshua describes his time with the Lord like this:Joshua 1:8 Study this Book of Instruction continually. Meditate on it day and night so you will be sure to obey everything written in it. Only then will you prosper and succeed in all you do.

Yes my dear readers, and that includes your marriages.

In spite of what other people say and do: "God is not my co-pilot", as I've seen on signs and bumper-stickers; God is the pilot of my life and marriage, and He should be yours too!. . . . . if you just learn to spend time with the Lord.

May God truly and richly Bless you today!

Just an attack of the enemy....

Now . . . Regarding the Juanita Bynum incident:

The Bible teaches us that we are not ignorant of Satan's devices, and in this last day movement of the Kingdom of God being presented to the world, we as children of God can expect anything. It's not strange and it certainly is not a surprise. We already know that it is coming; the attact of the enemy. The reassuring part however, is that . . . . .the Lord delivers us out of them all. . . .Amen!
Now as for those concerned Christians who think that these incidents should be hidden or covered up, you are so mistaken.

The fact is that some things need to be brought out into the open. A problem can never be corrected if it is covered up. It is the mere reason that Jesus came. . . .to save the lost, to heal the sick , to set the captive free, and bind up the broken hearted; to bring deliverance.

If the woman at the well had covered up sins of her many husbands, she would have never been able to declare her great testimony of deliverance.
Our churches are suffering today because of so many "cover ups" . We need power and deliverance in the the church, not cover ups.

Our pastor teaches us the concept of "no more lies" which has revolutionized the lives of many. True, we should always pray for the couple and God will be glorified at the end. Absolutely nothing has been taken away from the two anointed vessels. It is just a time of trials, tribulations and temptations. How soon we forget God's Holy words: Romans 8:28 : And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.
God is going to take this incident and turn it into a glorious testimony for His name sake.We DO HAVE THE VICTORY. . . .through Christ who still loves us.

Remember this: the sufferings of this present time is not worthy to be compared with the glory that shall be revealed in us . . . . .if we just stop trying to cover up!
God Bless you today!

Kept by God. . . .

The question in today's segment is as always. . . .how! How do marriages stay together in today's society? How can marriages last or even go the distance? How can you still love one person for a lifetime? How can you live with someone who's is so different from yourself? How is it possible to become one as the Bible says that we should? How can we know if our marriages are even authentic? How . .How. . How!

That's right my dear friends, How. . .is the question.
If I tell you that all of these questions are easy, I would be doing you an injustice. It's not easy. There are trials and tribulations, disappointments and dis-pares; disagreements and misunderstandings and often, different beliefs; so how is it done? Well here's your beginning!
1 Corinthians 5:7 Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump, as ye are unleavened. For even Christ our passover is sacrificed for us:
So, what is it that the Lord is saying? You see, there is a "mind-set" that you must have in order to accomplish these difficult tasks; and that mind set is first coming to Christ! I know. . .you're not religious! Well religion has absolutely nothing to do with coming to Christ. Surprised? . . . you should be.
Contrary to popular belief, religion is like joining an organization and abiding by the by laws and rules and regulations; sort of a moral responsibility in fact. Even the scriptures say: James 1:27 Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself un-spotted from the world. ( and even that's difficult to do). However, coming to Christ is a Life transformation.
You see, when you become different, you begin to think differently. . .Get my point? 2 Corinthians 5:17 Therefore if any man be in Christ, he is a new creature: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new. Things will never change for you or your marriage unless you change!
As you submit to Him, you are opening a door of wisdom and knowledge that you never knew before. A mind set that you never had. Trust me, it doesn't just come naturally, it is imparted to you by God.
I truly feel sorry for unbelievers, because they are missing out on the powerful and effective wisdom that God gives those who put their trust in Him.
In all practicality, if you worked for a company that required a security badge to access the property, no outsider or anyone else could get access without having that security badge. And it is the same with the Lord. When you come to Him, you have privileges. It's so simple. Stop worrying about religion and just come to Him. He will prove Himself. In fact, just the way you are, you and your marriage, no questions asked.
If you really want those questions about your lives and your marriages answered . . .invite Jesus Christ into your life: messed up , hooked up, caught up, or any other kind of up you may be in. Christ changes the entire perspective and gives you solutions. It's all recorded in His word, and it's called the Holy Bible.
Consider this: I could not testify of these things if it had not happened to me. I've been married for 39 1/2 years and I'm still in Love with my wife; but only through Christ. Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me.
So you see, you can know what to do and how to do it. Your marriages can be destined for greatness in happiness and fulfillment, and the best part of it all. . . . .your marriage then. . . . is Kept by God!
God Bless this day; only because you are Blessed!

Somebody shout . . . .AMEN!

Today is a special day; simply because in today's segment, we see light at the end of the tunnel. That's right, no matter what you're going through in your marriages, our Lord says that there is relief; and you don't have to see it to know that it's there. Kind of like the wind. (smiles)

Typically marriages today are never without incident, and more often than not we all face difficult times. Be it natural, physical, or spiritual, there are dilemmas we face and if we're honest, we really don't know what to do about them. Listen to the scriptures: Job 14:1 Man that is born of a woman is of few days and full of trouble. Now isn't that interesting? As soon as we enter into this world, we seem to be destined for some type of trouble. With marriages, it just seems to multiply. Nevertheless, with all of that; there is still hope and refuge. Where does it come from? I'm so glad you asked. It comes from The Lord. Psalm 40:4 Blessed is that man that maketh the LORD his trust, and respecteth not the proud, nor such as turn aside to lies. Matthew 6:8 Be not ye therefore like unto them: for your Father knoweth what things ye have need of, before ye ask him. Do you see what I'm getting at? Contrary to what we may think, our lives and our marriages are in God's hand. Our only responsibility is to trust Him. Here is the most important scripture of this entire blog.

Please read and and understand it. It will surely bless you, and if your marriage is in trouble today, your solution is in this scripture. What you don't know can hurt you, so remember this one thing: Isaiah 57:13 When thou cryest, let thy companies deliver thee; but the wind shall carry them all away; vanity shall take them: but he that putteth his trust in me shall possess the land, and shall inherit my holy mountain; you see, many times we look in the wrong places for our answers, and because we think in ourselves that God doesn't really see our struggles, we will not seek His help. Typical! Hebrews 4:15 For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched with the feeling of our infirmities; but was in all points tempted like as we are, yet without sin.

Why so many scriptures today one may ask. It is a day that God wants you readers to hear more from Him rather than from me. His Word is the key. It's good for our sicknesses, our weakness, our shortcomings, our problems, our concerns, our heartaches, troubles, our dilemmas, and most of all our marriages. His word, the true medicine. Marriage without His word is like walking blindfolded on top of a Cliff.

My message today is really about taking the heavy load off your hearts and minds in your marriages. There is truly a source for help, but it's not of this world. It must come from above. If I didn't believe it, I would not sit in front of my computer day after day sharing what God has given me to give to you! Trust me, it works. Jeremiah 17:7 Blessed is the man that trusteth in the LORD, and whose hope the LORD is. The only reason you visit a store to purchase an item is because you believe that it has what you're looking for. . . . . get the point. . . . .need I say more. AMEN~

We're Blessed because He has Blessed us.

The End Results. . . . .

John 8:31 Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; which is why today's segment is so important to your marriages.

As we have journeyed through life, we all have goals and dreams that sooner or later we desire that those things would come to pass; and by reason of health and strength if we continue, we achieve the "end results".

In marriage, it is the same way. Our "end results" depend solely on our willingness to continue down the path that God has set for us. The end results being. . . .happiness, health, healing, deliverance, joy, peace, contentment, love, and most of all the salvation of our souls.

The problem is simply this: many marriages have failed to continue in the instruction of God's word as the above scripture notes. Contrary to popular belief, marriage is a spiritual thing. Not a physical thing, not a sex thing, not a racial thing . . . . . .it's all spiritual! . . .and when you remove the spirituality from it, the "end results". . . . .divorce.

Divorce today is at an all time high, especially in the "church". Why? Most definitely because those marriages have taken God out of the equation. Categorically, most people place marriage in the "do want I want" column, but not so. Marriage is spiritual!

Call me a religious fanatic, holy roller, or even to mind my own business, but it still doesn't change the fact that marriage is spiritual; and the end results proves it!

You see my dear readers, people act on what they tend to believe, but the clause there is this:

you become what you believe, right or wrong! Proverbs 23:7 For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he: so as you can see, it is so important to find out the truth in life, especially when it pertains to marriage. Can't you see, that it's the "end results" that really count. Luke 14:28 ) For which of you, intending to build a tower, sitteth not down first, and counteth the cost, whether he have sufficient to finish it? How important that is.

Here's today's thought: Take your marriage serious, count up the cost. Take time to see what God says in his word concerning your marriage. (trust me, it's in there). Then continue in the things that you know are right based on what you have researched to find true, and afterwards, you will see that the proof is in the pudding; it will show you the "end results".

Let's all decide today, to be Blessed!

Never a dull moment. . . .

The topic of our subject today deals with balancing your marriage. As the header of this blog says: "never a dull moment"; and it should always be that way in your marriages.

Now if you think that because I am an evangelist-preacher, that I sit around all day and read the Bible and pray, you are sadly mistaken.

That's only for those hypocrites who try and hide behind the church while they do their dirt behind closed doors. Sorry, that's not me.

In fact, as I have learned from the Lord, that you need a little spice in your life, that's right, your marriage will turn to mud if you don't have a little fun!

In the book of Ecclesiastes, it reads: There is nothing better for a man, than that he should eat and drink, and that he should make his soul enjoy good in his labour. This also I saw, that it was from the hand of God. Ecclesiastes 2:24. So you see, even God expects you to enjoy life, especially in marriage.

Too often marriages are run down, dry with no life; only because we have failed to mix a little enjoyment along with the serious stuff.

It's a fact! As individuals as well as marriages, we must create a balance in your life. All work and no play is just as detrimental as all play and nothing taken seriously. Listen to the scriptures: Ecclesiastes 22For what hath man of all his labour, and of the vexation of his heart, wherein he hath laboured under the sun?
23For all his days are sorrows, and his travail grief; yea, his heart takes not rest in the night. This is also vanity.

As you can see, living life day by day is challenge enough. When you have taken on a partner to face these challenges, it becomes even more difficult and many times stressful, so how do we balance our lives and marriages? It's so simple, Have some fun!, Ecclesiastes 3:13 And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of God. (FOOTNOTE: )Please don't misunderstand what the Word is saying here: God is not talking about going out and boosing it up)(smiles)

So what are you waiting for. . . .grab your partner by the hand, give out a big smile and say: "come on honey, let's take a chill pill", tonight, it's just you and I. (Now remember, if you have children, (FIND A BABYSITTER), and have a little fun. . . .TOGETHER!! You may even want to have sex. It's not perverse, it's part of being married, and a good part I might add.

The message: Your marriages' rise or fall will depend on how well you both are able to balance out your relationship through the wisdom and understanding that is given to us by God. Yes, marriage is serious in God's eyesight, but it's still not a prison. You must learn the difference. Now, I have put this scripture in this blog twice, so that you will understand that Marriage God's way includes: taking a break from the hardships and challenges of life, to just have a little fun!

Ecclesiastes 3:13 And also that every man should eat and drink, and enjoy the good of all his labour, it is the gift of God. Be sure not to forget that!

Permit me to close with this: MARRIAGE WITH NO PLAY WILL SURELY DRIVE YOU BOTH AWAY. . . if you believe it, that's good, but if you receive it . . . .then. . . . . .

You are Blessed!

Common Ground. . .

From the scripture in the Bible called Isaiah, comes our topic of today's segment; "Common Ground".

Isaiah 1:18 Come now, and let us reason together, saith the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be as white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.

As you can see, in this particular scripture, Isaiah was declaring a plea from God to mankind saying that no matter what situation you're in or how bad you may think it is, if you come together with me, we can reason, and find common ground. Now since God has fashion the church after a marriage, the same rules seem to apply with marriages.

You may think that your set of circumstances or situations are hopeless and perhaps unsolvable, but I'm here to tell you "Not so". You can find "common ground".

Common ground is the ability for two individual entities to come together as one and find a solution that they both agree on. Please my dear readers, do not get common ground confused with compromise. They are not the same!

Compromise is also coming together and finding a solution, however, the solutions are sometimes against principles that you don't necessarily agree with but are willing to overlook just to come to terms. Please understand that. On the other hand, with common ground, both parties are satisfied having not given up or forfeiting certain principles that are right and still arriving at a solution.

Common ground is one of the most important factors in a marriage relationship. Having the ability and the willingness to find this common ground is a sign of true love, or in my opinion, "real love".

Even in the Holy scriptures, God has set in the church key ministries to ensure this:
Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ: Ephesians 4:13 . . . .in other words, common ground.

How important it is for marriages to find common ground. Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed? Certainly not, they must find common ground.

Every day in our lives, there will be challenges of life. Some very simple, and some not so simple; nevertheless, as a marriage team if you will, should always be able to find that common ground in every situation. It's almost like the "the power of agreement". . .
Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven.
Matthew 18:19 .Well, common ground sort of works the same way.

Imagine buying a brand new carriage and two strong horses. Put one horse in the front of the carriage and the other horse behind the carriage but turning them in different directions. I don't have to tell you how ridiculous that sounds not to mention the ending results. Although unpractical as that may seem, many marriages today have done exactly that with their relationships dealing with life's issues; and the results, naturally are always disastrous.

Here's my point: Finding common ground is the only viable way to build a strong marriage relationship. Even in my own life when problems occur, it is a joy to have my wife standing by my side to find a common ground solution. You should try it, then you'll understand what I'm saying here.

Certainly our individuality is not disturbed when we join with another individual to find common ground. It's called "Marriage". Have you ever stop to ask yourself why even the legal system recognizes two people having lived together for a certain period of time and never getting married, but call it " common law"? Although, God doesn't recognize common law marriages, He still supports the principle of common law. These two have come together and established a common ground of existence. In other words, they have come in agreement! Can you see that now? It's all about finding common ground. If you do it, it will revolutionize your marriage forever!

Remember, common ground says that you both are Blessed!

It takes Two. . . .

In today's segment, we address the participation of two in a marriage.

Typically, when married couples are beginning their journey through marriage, they at first want to do everything together, or perhaps it may just seem that way. Nevertheless, the successful workmanship of that couple, builds their own little empire together. It's kind of a team working as one entity. Get my drift?

In every instance, two is better that one. Even the scriptures tell us that as well: Ecclesiastes 4:9 Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.

When you are attempting to prepare or repair, it is always best to do it together. Marriages often fail simply for that reason alone. It is imperative to take on this life commitment together. Even when making important decisions concerning your welfare, both parties should be included. There should never be a dictatorship in marriage. It's not fare and besides; you are depriving your marriage of true growth. Your togetherness carries alone, an authority that you don't have as an individual. Want me to explain? My pleasure.

The mere fact that your marriage operates as one entity is an authority and a (testimony) to the world that you both have settled in your hearts and minds that your marriage flourishes because of your stand of oneness or togetherness. It also acts as a deterrent to outsiders and warns them not to try to interfere with this marriage union. That's pretty powerful, I'd say. Even in situations of indecision, two is without question better than one alone. It's sort of a parallel to your walk in Christ too! Psalm 133:1 Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity! As you can see, just the act of working together provides the advantage of sharing and planning your life, and you're doing with someone you truly love. Amen! That alone is worth it all!

Here's the test: Start to plan and prepare your goals and aspirations in life for your marriage; and do it together. That's right, take the time to do it! Nothing ever turns out right without the proper planning, so take some time. You will find that you are building an un-penetrable future for your marriage, and that's what really makes it last. Get it? It will only happen, when you do it TOGETHER!

This is your day to be Blessed!

Picking up the Pieces. . .

Today we address a catastrophic casualty; which are marriages that have been destroyed.

In our segment today, we offer some alternatives for these destroyed marriages, and in a way you'll be "picking up the pieces.

Typically when a tangible item has been broken, we usually try and pick of the pieces, simply to try and reassemble or put it back together. Why? . . . .because it is valuable to you. Today, I'd like to try and do the same thing with your broken marriages. Let's take a look at some interesting facts.

Most broken marriages erupt usually when a breach of trust is revealed or possibly a conflict of hidden interest comes to the surface. At that point, the two involved parties have determined that the furtherance of this relationship is not going to work. Wrong answer!!

Piking up the pieces should be your first line of strategy. It is commonly known around the globe, that broken marriages erupt from a lack of communication. Getting to the source of a problem is very important. It's not the whats and the whens that should be looked into, it's always the whys that you should be concerned with. Intelligent people don't just act without reason. It is at that point that communication should comes into play, the first step of picking up the pieces. Step number (2) should be the revealing of honesty. True to thy self, then true to your mate.Amos 3:3 Can two walk together, except they be agreed? Agreement doesn't mean that you think the same or that your views on the subject are the same. It simply means that you both have found a common ground of understanding about the same thing. If you identify it, you can change it, but only if you're willing to "pick up the pieces". You see, divorce is actually a punishment, not an easy out. I would look closely at one who would so easily want divorce above trying to save what is precious! That is an issue concerning "motive".

So what are we saying here today? As in building a marriage relationship, it is a process, so is the re-building of one. Picking up the pieces is the beginning. Think about it. Once you have become one, joined in Holy matrimony and establish that relationship, why would you want to loose a part of yourself?
1 Corinthians 7:4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.

When accidentally you strike your hand with a hammer, do you cut off the other hand that hit it? Of course not, even though it wasn't intentional, and you were hurt by it, you still want it to heal, why? . . .because you're gonna need it later. (smiles) As it is with your broken marriage. A real marriage is necessary for both. Reconciliation is the best antidote for damaged relationships and broken marriages.

Now let's recap. In Picking up the pieces we understand that it is a process. First and foremost we communicate, secondly we lay our cards on the table identify the issue through honesty. Thirdly to seek for reconciliation and repair. Lastly, of course as always, seek through the Holy scriptures for answers about yourself. You may be surprised what you find. When you are able to know your self, it becomes so much easier to interact with others, especially your mate.

Now I know that your problems aren't solved today, but if you start the process of picking up the pieces, you will find results that you never imagined were possible.

. . . . .and as always. . . . Stay Blessed!

and it all works by . . . .LOVE.

Of course in today's segment, we address what some may think of as a simple emotion, Love. However, it isn't that simple. True, love is definately an emotion; but what about the rest of it's attributes?

1 Corinthians 13:1 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal. 2 And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing. 3 And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profits me nothing. 4 Charity suffers long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up, 8 Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away. 13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity. Charity as the scriptures describes is LOVE!

Note: Couples should never marry unless the element of Love is present. I repeat NEVER! As you can see, Love is not only an emotion, but it is an action as well. Marriages do not survive without this ingredient. On the other hand, Love is a process. Let me explain.

Many people ask is there Love at first sight. Well, not really, it's an infatuation at first brought on by your senses. First you look, then you like, then you pursue. Love comes after you develop that relationship which then causes two people to then make choices; and those choices include complete lifestyle changes. If your life style has not changed since marriage, there's definitely something wrong in your relationship, and it could very well be missing the element of Love; true love that is.

What's the message here: Your marriages must work on foundational truths: such as Love. When true love is in action, it is literally just that, in action! Get it? It's an action, not just a feeling. Your feeling change constantly! Love never changes. . . .it's always the same. Sometimes we think we love when we really don't. Love accepts, receives, perceives, perseveres, endures, understands, along with so many other characteristics, where emotions only receives and reacts. Read the above scriptures again and you'll see what I'm saying here. Emotions change based on circumstances, but never Love. Think about it!

How do you stop loving; if it's really love? You may want to ask yourself that question.

It's all in the book, the Holy Bible that is. Take a little time out of your schedule and compare your marriages with this Devinne book of revelations. It's the blueprint for a successful marriage relationship.

Always remember, it won't work, unless it works by Love!

God Bless You!

I Do. . . . a chapter from my book!

It all starts in today's segment with the simple words: "I Do". Of course as you know, it is the smallest phrase yet the most binding in the situation called Marriage.

Just the words alone set a new course in the lives to the two individuals who declare this phrase. I do is a contract, an agreement, a submission, and an unconditional commitment. It is witnessed by both God and man so that it is clearly understood and recognized, that these two people have joined to become one.

Genesis 2:24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. Significantly enough, the scriptures always refer to leaving one's place or state of mind, to get to the next place. It's even practical, for example, you can't stay in Philadelphia if you trying to get to California. Make sense?

As you can see, it is our willingness and decision to leave some things behind in order to affect the completeness in our lives as it pertains to marriage.

How sad it is that marriages have not worked out because of our failure to leave some things behind us. It is a choice however, that must be made in order to fulfill the requirements of the marriage bond. There is just no way around it!

Your declaration, when you pronounce to two little words "I Do" say that you by choice are willfully entered into this marriage bond to commit and to submit to the guidelines, (all outlined in the Holy Bible) and conditions set forth through your vows; in sickness and in health, until death do you part, in good times, in the bad times, hard times, good times, for rich or for poor, and etc. This is the mind set of heart that must be present to make a marriage of God's way a reality in both your lives.

Further, the I do declaration requires equal involvement and sharing of one's self, in love, trust, commitment, and responsibility, and most of all faithfulness. Last of all, but not the least, the willingness to adhere to the biblical instruction through the Word of God that will ensure that your marriages are kept in spiritual harmony. 2 Corinthians 13:11 Finally, brethren, Be perfect, be of good comfort, be of one mind, live in peace; and the God of love and peace shall be with you. You see my dear friends, everything in a marriage God's way hinges upon our obedience to the higher authority, Philippians 4:7 And the peace of God, which passes all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

Here's the message: I do: to God. . . .I do: to your mate. . . .I do: to the instruction of the Holy scriptures. . . .and if you do these things, your marriages will be both fulfilled and complete. I know. . . . . .because I do!

May your day be filled with Blessings from above!

What's in it for me . . . ?

The following scriptures represent the baseline of today's topic: 2 Corinthians 9:6 But this I say, He which soweth sparingly shall reap also sparingly; and he which soweth bountifully shall reap also bountifully. Galatians 6:7 Be not deceived; God is not mocked: for whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap.

As you can see, the efforts that we put into our marriage relationships subsequently produces a fruit or determines the integrity of our marriages.

Stop and think, have we really committed everything that we can to our mates? Are we in total agreement of submitting ourselves to one another to ensure that nothing can penetrate that bond of love? It is the quality of our marriages that is really lacking. You see, growth never happens without an initial investment; or sowing if you will, and our investment should first be in our marriages. (not to the church) Just a footnote: your ability to be used by God in ministry is predicated on how you handle your personal life first, so don't get that mixed up. Your first ministry is with your spouse!

The scriptures that are referenced above, emphatically tells us that our lack of input results in a lack of growth for our relationship. These things are not options. . . . . they are necessary and mandated by the scriptures. There should be no promiscuity in marriage. It is an intentional commitment (or should be), between the two parties who have vowed a vow.

As in the financial world of investments, you will note that the greater the investment, the larger the return. Therefore, the law of seed and harvest is in affect and actually a biblical principle that can be applied in many ways. Not only for tangible things like money, but in principle, the sincere and true investment of both married parties to create an un-penetratable bond and relationship which reflects the oneness of a marriage; and the results: Luke 6:38 Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be .measured to you again.

Of course you may ask, how is that relevant: here's how: the quality, not the quantity of your input into your marriage(very very important) is what will determine it's essence. That means whether it's genuine and has substance, you know. . . . if it's for real! A superficial giving of one's self will always show up in the balances. It's like a role play or, to put it bluntly, just an act, no substance, no sincerity, no commitment, no real love or intimate desire, it's all just an act! How sad.

Nevertheless, I have some good news! Your marriage doesn't have to be that way. You have the power to change it! That's right, and it's all written down for you. Yes. . . . .you've guessed it. The Holy Bible. The Word of Almighty God. It will change your marriage and transform it into such a joy until you can't wait to wake up every morning and share another day with your mate! Hallelujah! Oh. . . . .and by the way. . . . . that's what's in it for you!

How Blessed it is to be Blessed!

The Covenant

Did you know that when you marry, you are actually entering into a life time covenant with each other? Well in today's segment, we will understand better why our marriages through a covenant has special privileges.

In the book of 1 Corinthians 11:26 For as often as ye eat this bread, and drink this cup, ye do shew the Lord's death till he come; Paul the Apostle is explaining the symbolic act of communion to the church. By eating the Holy bread which represent the bruised and beaten body of Christ; and drinking the wine, which represents the shed blood of Jesus Christ for our sins, we enter into an everlasting covenant with God. So it is the same, when we speak the words: "I Do", we also enter into a covenant (for life) with our mates. Again, why this is so important, it relinquishes the self-will of each party involved.

Genesis 17:7 And I will establish my covenant between me and thee and thy seed after thee in their generations for an everlasting covenant, to be a God unto thee, and to thy seed after thee. As you can see, even in Moses's time, God establishes a covenant with mankind, as He does now, and surprisingly enough, He also has set forth a plan for man and woman to establish a like covenant. It's called "Marriage".

When you enter into a covenant, you actually now take on the ownership of each other. Let me explain. In a marriage, you agree through the act of a ceremony, to vow to each other that now, before God and man, you two are now one entity. Remember. . . ".no more twain but one". Don't you see, it's an exchange ; companionship replaces loneliness, love replaces the emptiness in heart, Independence is replaced with partnership; and with that, you now have the power of agreement. Matthew 18:19 Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. You see. . . . .two becoming one with the authority of 10,000. I know it sounds a little deep, but it is the reality of the scriptures instructing us of the benefits of a covenant relationship.

It's so important my friends to re-evaluate your marriages and dig into the Holy scriptures to find out what your rights really are. A covenant with God and a covenant with your mate is the best insurance policy you will ever know.

So now it's your turn. . . . .search the scriptures, (read your policy) and find out the benefits that it offers. That's right, find why it is so important for marriage God's way to operate in your relationship. I know for a fact that what you don't know can indeed hurt you! Remember, it's your covenant!

Always be Blessed!

Marriage. . .Profound or Profane

In today's segment, we look into the institution of marriage and how we view it's real meaning. We understand that from the very beginning, God instituted the marriage bond.

In Genesis 2:18 And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.

You see, God knew that Adam (the first natural man) could handle having dominion over the earth, he just didn't want him to do it alone. Many times in our marriage relationships, we operate as independent entities. When I looked up the word "profane", I noticed that it represented the act of going against that which was sacred. In other words, acting against, or not reverencing that which was sacred. When we act outside of the parameters of that which God has set forth in a marriage, we actually make our marriage profane; and is one reason why marriages don't last.

Even in practical life, assembling a table, or cabinet, and not following the directions given to you by the inventors, usually ends up being thrown in the trash. Why?. . . .simply because it becomes unusable if it is not assembled properly.

The same applies to the marriage union. If the principles and guidelines set forth by God throughout the Holy scriptures are not followed to the letter, the results are . . . .well I don't have to tell you. . . .see for yourself: chaos, disarray, unhappiness, discontentment, often abuse, and ultimately divorce. That's certainly not how God planned it.

Did you pick the wrong mate? Of course not, you just didn't follow the instructions.

On the other hand, when looking up the word "profound", I found the meaning to be a knowledgeable depth. Interesting isn't it? Webster also categorized as "unbreakable". Wow, now that's amazing!

Just by following the rules and guidelines of God's word for marriage, will cause a depth that is unbreakable. Ha Ha Ha. . . .Praise God. I'm getting happy now, so I'd better close with this:

Which one is it for your marriage? "PROFANE or PROFOUND"? You know the choice is really yours. As my wife says to me constantly, "why don't you try reading the instructions". . . .you should try it too! . . . .It'll make all the difference in the world in your marriage!

Marriage God's Way. . . .it's really Profound!

Be Blessed!

Time Out . . . !

Hello dear precious readers. . . . .I am out of town in Revival where it is difficult to get to a computer. Please bare with me for a couple of days until I return. I promise to come right back with more of Marriage God's Way insights! So keep looking up, and always remember. . . .

You are Blessed!

Molly, Me, and the Devil makes Three. . .!

Although it's a funny title, trust me, it's a very serious matter! That's why in today's segment, we discuss the power of prayer in your marriages. Note: "the power of prayer engaged everyday. . will be sure to keep the enemy away".

Matthew 26:41 Watch and pray, that ye enter not into temptation: the spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak. . . As you can see it is vital and a must, that the married couple pray. It is even more effective and powerful however, if you can find the time to pray together. Many marriages as well as individual lives are bombarded with attacks from (old slew-foot), that's right, the devil. Although the forces are invisible, they carry a devastating impact on the two people that have joined together to become one!

Luke 21:36 Watch ye therefore, and pray always, that ye may be accounted worthy to escape all these things that shall come to pass, and to stand before the Son of man. Not only should you pray for the protection of your marriage, but also that you pray to be held accountable for your walk in faith in your marriage. Please don't take this lightly, because God doesn't. . . .Luke 18:1 And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint; simply meaning that your prayers should become a consistent part of your life, especially in marriages.

The enemy doesn't want to see you get along, nor does he want to see your marriage grow. Positive thinking, therapeutic mind sets, philosophy, religiosity, and any other motivational thinking technique will not work. . . . YOU MUST PRAY! Listen to the Holy scriptures: Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places. You see, the natural man/woman have no defense against the evil forces of Satan. It's going to take Prayer!

Find the time to pray for your marriage, it not only will quicken your alertness to unseen attitudes that may try to crop up in your relationship. Be aware of snappy answers, changes in behaviors. These are all signs of the unseen forces that try to penetrate the oneness of your marriage relationship. 2 Corinthians 2:11 Lest Satan should get an advantage of us: for we are not ignorant of his devices. (very important).

Now do you think Molly and me is sufficient? Of course you do. . . . .Keep the devil out of your marriage. PRAY!

You are always Blessed!