Monday, July 2, 2007

Married with Children. . . .the bubble !

In today's segment we highlight "The Bubble". Of course you're saying to yourself, what on earth? The bubble is a very utilized mechanism that marriages with children, of course, develop to supposedly discipline their children. By now you've already surmised that the topic today is about raising children in a marriage.

Although the bubble seems to be a safe and logical way of keeping tabs on the kids, it is also at the same time relinquishing you from your responsibility; to Raise those Children. In the book of : Proverbs 22:6 it reads: Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
Now I'm sure many will agree that putting your child or children in bubbles is the best thing. How misleading that mind set is! Is that really your reason for putting the children in a Bubble?

What exactly is "the bubble". Well, first it is placing unwarranted restrictions on your children. Did you not know that the Bible says: Colossians 3:21 Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged. Children are more receptive when they are allowed to be children. You cannot expect a child to act or even understand as an adult. Accept it or not, here is what God's word says about that: 1 Corinthians 13:11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

When you give your child any and everything they want, you corrupt that child by omitting lessons of earning and responsibility. You are depriving that child of self esteem by crippling him/her with unearned gifts. ( or is it just to keep them out of your hair) When you imprison your children with unnecessary restrictions, you have failed to teach them the consequences of choice.

Children that are placed in "the bubble" by their parents statistically tend not to succeed in life, because they have been cheated out of the real lessons of life, and usually instead they try to cheat life., and if you want it in layman's terms, they usually end up in trouble.You have heard many many children attest to this: "as soon as I am of age, I'm getting out of this house". Why do you think this kind of attitude is so forceful in children, pray tell me?. Isn't the married with children life an environment of Love, Faith, Trust, Instruction, Principle, and Growth? That's almost a perfect scenario.
What's the message here? Married with children is a responsibility as well as a mandate from God to raise your children..
Please, don't shortchange your children by substituting gifts for training. Please, Don't place undo burdens of heavy restrictions on your children thinking that it's the old fashion way. The real old fashion way is this: taking the time to interact with your children, through love, correction, instruction, discipline and finally, fellowship. All these things must work together. Remember, you were once a child, and children are ultimately a product of their parents. Think about that!

Always, you are Blessed!

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be not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is. . .Ephesians 5:17