Resolution or Resurrection. . .

In this week's segments and as the year comes to a close, it's important to focus on where your life and marriage is heading. Resolution or Resurrection is the choice that is set before us today.

Typically, we all tend to decide on resolutions for the upcoming year, to of course do better, and possibly change some things. However, it is vital for us who are married to press much further than a resolution, which in many cases aren't adhered to any way.
Resurrection on the other hand carries an authority and a new birth if you will, for the days ahead. Our marriage barometers should be set on a much closer walk with each other. Yes, even more intimate times together and fellowship along with communication.
When the apostle Paul was admonishing the church become familiar with their ministry partners, he wrote: 1 Thessalonians 5:12 And we beseech you, brethren, to know them which labour among you, and are over you in the Lord, and admonish you.
It's so important to know each other, not outside of, but inside your relationship!
What does that mean? I'm glad you asked!
Knowing your spouse inside your relationship takes the "unknown" out of your relationship. That's right! Did you know that 70% of divorces are due to a lack of communication between the two parties. They really didn't communicate, inside the relationship; subsequently, it left room for doubt, trust, and the fear of "what if".
You see precious readers, longevity is actually based on the quality of your foundation. Listen to this scripture: Luke 6:48 He is like a man which built an house, and digged deep, and laid the foundation on a rock: and when the flood arose, the stream beat vehemently upon that house, and could not shake it: for it was founded upon a rock.
what is the foundation of your marriage built on? . . .money . . .automobiles. . .houses. . .sex. . prestige. . .pride. Something to really think about eh!
Resurrection means to bring back to life. No doubt you may have had some rough times in 2007, but it does not eliminate the ability to resurrect you marriage relationship. In fact, resurrecting you marriage will teach you new ways to fall in love all over again.
It's time for resurrections not resolutions. . .decide before the year is out, that you're in it for the long haul. . . resurrect your marriage relationship; it's Godly, it's even heavenly, and besides, it's the right thing to do because it's Marriage God's Way! I'm praying that those who will read this message will be inspired to take a firm step to resurrect your marriage relationship.
May God richly Bless you during this holiday season and always remember . . . .
YOU ARE BLESSED!

GIVING THANKS. . . .

HAPPY THANKSGIVING MY DEAR READERS.
Giving thanks is one of the most important aspects of your marriage; and more importantly, for life period. It cost you nothing, and the reward of it is so much greater.

Giving thanks for the things you have accomplished together. Giving thanks for just having each other to lean on. Giving thanks for the love you share,for the experiences you go through, for the commitment you both carry.

Giving thanks for the opportunity to make things a little better. Giving thanks for what you already have, and then giving thanks for what's coming your way.

That's right my friends, it's giving thanks that take you further. The Holy scriptures even tell us when the master was about to reward the servant: Matthew 25:23 His lord said unto him, Well done, good and faithful servant; thou hast been faithful over a few things, I will make thee ruler over many things: enter thou into the joy of thy lord.

You see, it's not multitude blessings, it's the magnitude. Don't you get it? It's not how much, it's being thankful for what you do have! That's the key!

You see, being thankful is a vital part of progress; in life, and most of all it's and important part of the marriage bond.

I am even thankful that many of you even take the time to read my marriage insights. Therefore, I am thankful and grateful to God that He has allowed me the opportunity to share these truths with you the readers.

Today is a day set aside for all men to take retrospect of life; and fruit of that observation should be a thankful heart and mind set of gratitude, that you and your spouse have come this far together.

Believe it or not, it means an awful lot to God, when you are thankful. The feeling of satisfaction when someone says "thank you" is the same feeling that our Heavenly Father feels.

Try taking time out during the course of your festive day to give thanks. It'll make a world of difference for your relationship and will energize the atmosphere of your household.

In my close today, I say thanks be to God for His goodness and mercy, and to you the readers I also say Thank You! Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and always remember:

You are Blessed!

From whence thou has come. . . .

In today's segment, there is a message as well as a lesson that we all must learn; and that is: remembering from whence thou has come. . .

It is to me so surprising whenever I counsel married couples, or just talk to individuals one on one, how we seem to forget so easily the road that brought us to the place where we are today.
By that I mean that we have not taken into consideration the fact that God's word is true whether you accept it or not. Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

You see my dear readers, things don't just happen. They are designed for purpose. Sound strange? Well it's not. Even in your marriages, your coming together, your meeting, and ultimately your marriage, all has purpose.
The rough times, the hard times, the good times, they all had purpose. Listen to this scripture and see if you can find your name mentioned. (of course not literally)
Ephesians 4:13 Till we all come in the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, unto a perfect man, unto the measure of the stature of the fulness of Christ:
The key word here was "all"

As you can see my friends, you are included as we all are. It is the plan of God that we understand our way of life and not just stumble through it. In our marriages, it's the same way. We shouldn't just stumble through it, but rather realize "from whence thou has come" which then allows us to see clearly the path set before us.

Attitude. . . .that's right attitude means everything. The way you approach not only situations in your marriage, but life in general, has everything to do with the outcome. Realizing what brought you to the place that you are determines the level that you will operate on when facing more difficult challenges in your marriages or otherwise.

So.....what are we saying here today?.. . . remembering where and what you have experienced helps your marriages, believe it or not. Some times it's not the big things, but the little things that we overlook or forget, that really helps us not only in our marriages, but in life period.
Humility travels much further than arrogance. It also teaches you how to get along in your marriages rather than just go along.. . .so remember from whence thou has come. . . . .the future of your marriage depends on it. It will bless you and your children's children. It's food for thought and the soul!

Have a wonderful day and always remember. . . . .YOU ARE BLESSED!

From the Heart. . . .

DEDICATED TO MY DEAR DAUGHTER-IN-LAW, SANDRA!

In today's segment, if you permit me, we will steer just a little away from the norm to discuss some issues of life that concern us all.
It's called: From the Heart. . . . As we all venture through life, we adopt relationships that are binding and penitrating. Especially those relationships of family and (real friends).

We sometimes forget that these people have attached themselves to us without intention. It's called Love!

We develop a "love" for those individuals as it becomes a part of our own makeup and personality. We conduct ourselves a certain way around those people and ready at an instant, to come to their aid.
At times we don't always vocalize our appreciation and admiration for these individuals but some how they know and feel that special relationship; and know that that relationship is pulsating whether visable or not. It's love from the heart.

There however will come a time for all things to cease. Some times our relationships are impacted by departure.
The scriptures say: Romans 8:37 Nay, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him that loved us. . . .and we are, only because our love comes from the heart.

You see my precious readers, everything has a season: a time to live, and a time to die. A time for joy and a time for sadness; nevertheless what we hold dear to us are only those things of the heart. Those things we never loose.
Many times we act incorrectly to situations only because we don't understand them.

1 Corinthians 13:12
For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
As we are enlightened in our knowledge and understanding, our responses to life's impacts automatically change, thus we find closure with the assurance that only the tangable is gone; but the things of the heart remain.

In sickness, in death, in sorrow, in shame, in departure, in distance; can never match the things of the Heart!
So be of good cheer, and be encouraged knowing that there are some things that can never be taken away from you . . . . things from the Heart!

God Bless you today and always remember. . . . .YOU ARE BLESSED

Is Compromise acceptable in Marriage?

Welcome dear readers. Today's segment deals with "Compromise".
Is compromise acceptable in marriage? First, let's take a good look at the word "compromise". Does it mean to give in; or just come to acceptable terms.

Well my dear friends, compromise is a literal agreement, be it in writing or verbal. It is the mutual consent from both parties; since we are dealing with marriages, it is consent from both husband and wife.

Now, what exactly are we compromising here? Principles, relationship, or just situations that warrant an adjustment. Of course, in the marital world, we are putting the emphasis on relationships. That's really where the meat of your entire marriage experience lays. It is the heart beat, if you will, of your marriage.

Now.......should we compromise our relationships. The Holy scriptures say ONLY IN CERTAIN CIRCUMSTANCES THAT DEAL WITH SPIRITUAL THINGS. Check it out:
1 Corinthians 7:4
The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. ...what do you think that actually means? It is the binding covenant that was made between the two parties at the inception of the marriage relationship. In other words, there should be NO compromise accept by consent. (for a legitimate reason)

Marriages that are not committed to that covenant of vows are usually always in compromise. Getting by with what you can is not the "life time commitment" you vowed at your wedding ceremony. Compromising relationships tend to end up in the divorce courts simply because there are no set lines to cross; and let's face it, the human instinct is adventurous unless prohibited by a standard, or a guideline, moral or otherwise. Remember the old saying: IF YOU DON'T STAND FOR SOMETHING, YOU'LL FALL FOR ANY THING.
Marriage is that institution with a set of principles, commitments, guidelines,standards and above all a covenant bond. Anything short of that is a compromise and should never be classified as a marriage.
Kind of strong?. . . . well marriage is strong, that is, if it is approached and executed in the way that God hath set forth. Yes, my friends, marriage is the beautiful world of "no compromise", but rather an everlasting love relationship bond.
When you decide to step up to the plate in marriage, you will find out that this life time experience is one of life-fulfilling moments that can only be appreciated by those who have committed themselves to each other.. . . and please.....what ever you do, don't leave The Lord out of your marriages.

God Loves you and so do we. Have a wonderful day and enjoy your marriages.

Yes my friends.........You are Blessed!

Satisfaction Guaranteed. . .

Matthew 24:38
For as in the days that were before the flood they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark,
Hello again readers. Well as you can see in the above scripture, although this dynamic book written over 2000 years ago, seems to depict times of today.

We appear to be doing a lot of that lately; marring, divorce, marring, divorce, and etc.
Now common sense tells me that when you make a purchase at a merchant, and you are not satisfied with the product, you return it and try something else. Well, doesn't it seem to you that in today's society, we are doing just that with marriages?

Is not marriage "satisfaction guaranteed" ?. . . or have we steered so far away from Godly principles that we can't recognize it. Listen to the scriptures:
2 Timothy 3 1This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3Without natural affection, truce breakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, 4Traitors, heady, high minded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; 5Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. 6For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, 7Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth. . . . .all which leads to reason why people don't want to talk about God, just relationship, (not marriage even), just relationship. Boy. . . have we missed the marked.
How on earth can you expect to be blessed without the Blessor???

Satisfaction guaranteed is the result of that relationship in marriage, that has submitted themselves to each other as well as following the guidelines set forth in God's Holy word. Like it or not, you can't get past God's measurement of satisfaction.
The truth here today is this: People do just what they want and are entitled to; however; there are also those that in their heart want a marriage relationship that is full of love, joy, peace, contentment, and most of all satisfaction. Those are the ones that I am directing this blog to.

It is God's will and plan that your marriages flourish like the noon day sun and that you heart be filled with the excitement of love.. . . .and it works. . .for those who will just follow God's blueprint.
It's fun, it's laughter, it's joyful, it's love, it's contentment, it's all of those things and more when you take Marriage God's Way. . . . .. and besides. . . .it's
SATISFACTION GUARANTEED!

GOD BLESS YOU TODAY. . . . and always remember. . . . YOU ARE BLESSED!
BE SURE TO VIST OUR NEXT BLOG: SUBJECT: IS "COMPROMISE ACCEPTABLE IN MARRIAGE"