Breaking the Ice

Breaking the ice is a phrase commonly used when strangers gather in an informal setting. Getting to know one another initially. It is also a technique that should be practiced in your every day to day interaction in your marriage.

Sadden to say that too many marriages survive on just a casual agreement, or casual greetings; Hello, how was your day, goodnight. Strangely enough there are marriages that just exist on such an arrangement. No breaking of the ice., just an understanding that you're here and I'm here. Sad isn't it?

In the Holy Scriptures, when Jesus invited his disciples to have a personal relationship with God, he says....take my yoke upon you and learn of me....Matthew 11:29. How difficult it must be to live in the same house with a person that you really don't even know.

In the book of Ephesians, chapter 5, verses 24 thru 33, husbands and wives are admonished to surrender of self to one another as one's self. The bible calls this a great mystery. . . . the giving of one's self to the other. It's called ONENESS.

Now please understand that oneness doesn't mean sameness.You two may be very different in personalities and ideals and values; however, it is the surrendering of one's will to the other in love, commitment, and loyalty.

Why not take the time to really learn about the other and really get to know one another . Take some "Quiet Time" together. If there are children involved, do what's necessary for your children and then take that quiet time TOGETHER! Let each other know how much you need them and love them, and care about what they care about. It's refreshing , informative , and most of all satisfying!..........so, BREAK THE ICE!