Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Choosing the right Mate. . . God's way!

Typically, when it's time for couples to decide on marriage, we generally don't ask God. It's just a fact. However, believe it or not, God also has set a time for us to marry. Surprised? ...well don't be. In the book of Ecclesiastes; Chapter 3, it tells how God has set in order times. A time for everything under the sun.
Many will ask, so how do I pick my mate? Does all of a sudden a man or woman appears, and I fall in love and get married?...Ha! Ha!...Sorry, I do however wish it was that easy, nevertheless. . . . .The Holy Scriptures tell us in Matthew: 6:25 thru 33, that our heavenly Father knows what we have need of; and yes even a mate. We have been so accustom to making all our decisions based on our senses.....feeling , touching , tasting , hearing, and seeing. There is a principle that most couples never consider, and that is trusting in God. You may not believe it but you must trust God with all, or you don't trust Him at all, Marriage in particular. Just a simple principle could save you years of heartaches.
Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not to thine own understanding....Proverbs: 3:5. You see it's not important to try and understand how God works. It just important for you to know that He knows how to work in your behalf. Verse 6 goes on to say : In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.
There is an inventory of mates that you don't even see! Praise God! The fact today is: God does care about the mate you pick. He cares who you marry because He alone only knows your future. Does it take faith? ....very little.
Have you ever gone shopping for a special item, and the salesperson says: "what you see is what we've got".disappointing isn't it?. . .it is the same when you don't look to God for your guidance. After all, isn't marriage a life-time affair.?
Contrary to popular belief, many marriages try to function on principles that are unfounded; or better still, not according to God's laws.
More so than not, a man or woman through Pride will say, no one can tell me how to live my life or how to spend my money etc. However, the scriptures tell us something completely different. In the book of Romans, chapter 13, Paul the apostle reveals to us that all men should be subject to the higher powers, and those powers come from God. Why is that so important you might say. Well, just like our laws on earth we are subject to, the same it is with the laws of God. In fact, the scripture goes on to say if we resist the law of God, we invite damnation into our destiny; so we really need to be selective when choosing our mates.
Here's the message: In the marriage function: What's yours is hers, what's hers is yours, you belong to her , she belongs to you. . .get the picture? You should consider those factors when choosing a mate! I Corinthians 7th chapter, tells us that even our bodies belong to each other. Why wouldn't everything else then belong to each other. Remember this: MARRIAGE IS NOT A BUSINESS!. it is the joining of two becoming one in the site of God and man; thus falling under the laws and guidelines of God.
It's amazing how so many marriages could be so much more fulfilling, if we only followed these simple principles.
Nothing should be separate when it comes to your marriage. Separate vacations , separate bank accounts, and on and on as though you were two total strangers.
I'm sure by now you're saying this is none of my business. YOU'RE RIGHT! .....but it is God's business. Take this tip: If you ever want to know if what you're doing is right or wrong, there are two sure ways to find out. #1. see if it corresponds with God's Word. and #2. look at the results of it. That will really tell how you chose, and it says a little something about you!
Take a second look now at your marriage, or your decision to get married . Is your motive filled with warmth and love unconditional? Or are you too busy separating "what's mine"? Now, take another look . . . . .you'll never be the same! Thank God you made the right choice!
Remember. . . . . .You are Blessed!

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