The Balance

In today's article, we discuss the word balance.
Simply because it is the "balance" that is necessary in you life, and in your relationships in marriage to keep you focused in allowing this element of balance have it's place in your emotional and physiological well being.

Often times, we find ourselves not allowing balance to become an ingredient of our lives, and more often in our marriages.

What exactly is balance?
Well, basically balance is the ability to allow equal portions of humanity to take it's place in our day to day life styles. Here's an example: How we deal with death is just as important as how we deal with life. That's right my friends it's OK to cry, it's OK to feel remorse, it's OK to forgive, yes it's OK to walk away, and it's even OK to feel overwhelmed.
You see my friends it is the strong man or woman who can experience the realities of life; be it good or bad, and still be functional. With marriage, it is the same way.

The obstacles of marriage have never guaranteed a smooth sailing; which is why the phrase "for better or for worse" was incorporated into the declaration of our wedding vows; and the only way you will have the "balance" in your life or in your marital relationships is to allow your self to react to these realities and encounters of life; and yes, sometimes we are overwhelmed. It's called being human!

The Bible even informs us that there are times for every purpose: a time for everything. . .Ecclesiastes 3:1 To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: 2A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; 3A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; 4A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; 5A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; 6A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; 7A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; 8A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a time of peace.

What's the message here?. . .simply this. . .it's not necessary to pre-occupy ourselves and pretend that life and it's realities don't affect us; because the truth of the matter is, they do affect us, and rightly so.
It's how we choose to deal with these realities that releases the "balance" necessary to live and go on with life.

Together with God and prayer we stand and live, and have balance. We are all a part of the human family that the Lord has ordained. He has given us the ability to even choose a helper, a lover, a friend, a companion, and most of all a supporter. That's what marriage is really all about.
Am I saying that we all need someone, yes, that is why balance is so important.
Won't you decide today to share the load with someone. (and to the married, I say: share the load together)
After all, your tomorrow counts on what you have decided to do today!
Have a wonderful week and remember "Balance" is the key!

You are Blessed!

The One-Sided Marriage

In today's segment,we are discussing "the one-sided marriage".
Generally in these types of scenarios, married couples barely survive; simply because those relationships are always lopsided. Let me explain:

Although God type marital relationships are based on giving and receiving, the one-sided relationship boils down to one always giving and the other always receiving.
In many many cases the "giver" usually reaches a point of no return and then has no other alternative but to give, that is if he or she wants to keep the relationship going. How sad is that?
On the other hand, the "receiver" is usually the dominating force of that marriage and ultimately becomes sort of a dictator. You know: "my way or the highway". These are commonly known as threat tactics that the dominating spouse be it he or she uses for leverage to manipulate the other; and in most cases, that person will go to any lengths to keep that control; which brings me to my next point.

Holy Scripture tells us this: Galatians 5:1 Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage. which is referring to the blatant sins of this world. Yes that's right, including "manipulation"

The true love story of a married couple should possess the attributes of the Spirit:
love ,joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance, which the Bible says: against such things, there is no law. Isn't that poweful. However, if you have manipulation in your relationship, it falls under the category of "the works of the flesh". . . Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, withchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,murders, drinkenness,revelligns,and envyings, which the Bible says that they which do these things will not inherit the kingdom of God, no matter how many times you go to church or how much money you give to charity, YOU WILL NOT ENTER INTO GOD'S KINGDOM. . .GALATIANS 5:19 You know who you are!

Here's my point; manipulation is not a tangible thing; it is a concept and intent of the heart which can only be seen by it's devastating results. ( the partner who is being manipulated typicaly is unhappy but afraid to challenge the manipulator for fear of the destruction of the marriage.)

My dear friends, it is God's will that your marriage be void of this type of practice but rather be filled with His words of life, health, love, and longevity.
Here's what I'm saying: It's never too late to change; and in Christ, you can make that change. God has given us a road map to guide us to the true essence of our marriage relationships as we follow the Holy scriptures.

Galatians 5:26 Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another. . You see, real love doesn't manipulate, it rejuvinates.
Put your marriage in the balances of God's Holy Word and see if there's anything that needs to be corrected. You just might be surprised at what you find.

Have a wonderful day and always remember:

YOU ARE BLESSED!