Sunday, April 6, 2008

The One-Sided Marriage

In today's segment,we are discussing "the one-sided marriage".
Generally in these types of scenarios, married couples barely survive; simply because those relationships are always lopsided. Let me explain:

Although God type marital relationships are based on giving and receiving, the one-sided relationship boils down to one always giving and the other always receiving.
In many many cases the "giver" usually reaches a point of no return and then has no other alternative but to give, that is if he or she wants to keep the relationship going. How sad is that?
On the other hand, the "receiver" is usually the dominating force of that marriage and ultimately becomes sort of a dictator. You know: "my way or the highway". These are commonly known as threat tactics that the dominating spouse be it he or she uses for leverage to manipulate the other; and in most cases, that person will go to any lengths to keep that control; which brings me to my next point.

Holy Scripture tells us this: Galatians 5:1 Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage. which is referring to the blatant sins of this world. Yes that's right, including "manipulation"

The true love story of a married couple should possess the attributes of the Spirit:
love ,joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith, meekness, temperance, which the Bible says: against such things, there is no law. Isn't that poweful. However, if you have manipulation in your relationship, it falls under the category of "the works of the flesh". . . Adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lasciviousness, idolatry, withchcraft, hatred, variance, emulations, wrath, strife, seditions, heresies,murders, drinkenness,revelligns,and envyings, which the Bible says that they which do these things will not inherit the kingdom of God, no matter how many times you go to church or how much money you give to charity, YOU WILL NOT ENTER INTO GOD'S KINGDOM. . .GALATIANS 5:19 You know who you are!

Here's my point; manipulation is not a tangible thing; it is a concept and intent of the heart which can only be seen by it's devastating results. ( the partner who is being manipulated typicaly is unhappy but afraid to challenge the manipulator for fear of the destruction of the marriage.)

My dear friends, it is God's will that your marriage be void of this type of practice but rather be filled with His words of life, health, love, and longevity.
Here's what I'm saying: It's never too late to change; and in Christ, you can make that change. God has given us a road map to guide us to the true essence of our marriage relationships as we follow the Holy scriptures.

Galatians 5:26 Let us not be desirous of vain glory, provoking one another, envying one another. . You see, real love doesn't manipulate, it rejuvinates.
Put your marriage in the balances of God's Holy Word and see if there's anything that needs to be corrected. You just might be surprised at what you find.

Have a wonderful day and always remember:


1 comment:

Ochial "Oluv" Ellison said...

I totally agree a balance relationship with your other half is a very healthy segment to live by. thanks for the good info.

Marriage is Honorable

Marriage is Honorable
be not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is. . .Ephesians 5:17